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Peace from prioritizing

I wrote about priorities last week; specifically, I wrote about embracing the idea that many things aren’t priorities for me. Very few things are.

Since then, I’ve quietly considered my priorities. “Being online” isn’t one of them. This doesn’t mean I won’t ever be online. Rather, it means I have to be conscientious about the time I do spend online. I figure I have about 30 minutes a day before its opportunity costs–what I’ve sacrificed in my offline life to be online–outweigh its benefits.

Does this sound restrictive? It feels very much the opposite: freeing! Putting a boundary around my online time gives me the peace of mind to really settle into the physical world. For six months or so, I forgot how to do that. My whole world was reading (and writing) politics online almost incessantly, the better to understand heartbreaking, systemic political truths I’d never seen while simply skating over the surface of politics.

Sustaining relentless online time meant sacrificing time for things in the physical world that sustain my soul. This includes playing with my kids, snuggling and talking with my husband, walking, running, reading books for the pleasure of it, washing dishes, folding laundry, pausing to murmur a prayer of thanks, being fully in my rockin’ work, singing to musicals as I commute, picking up fistfuls of dirt and watching as it drifts through my fingers back to Earth, and sitting down face-to-face with friends.

I can’t spend too much more time writing about this. I’ve already used a good chunk of my time online today writing here, which is silly since this is all preface for a 7-minute video I recorded yesterday!

Day by day, I’m prioritizing better … and, as I think you’ll see if you watch the video below, it feels great.


Trying and failing to get a good screen shot 🙂

  1. March 3, 2017 at 5:47 am

    When I did this transformation, we called it removing the busy from busyness! Nice to hear it’s made such a difference already for you!

    • March 3, 2017 at 6:37 am

      “Removing the bust from busyness” is the perfect way of putting it! There’ll always be plenty that must get done, so that adding more to that category than really belongs there? No, thanks! Not anymore!

  2. March 3, 2017 at 5:49 am

    Good for you! It works for you and you’re doing what you need to do keep it working. Makes me wish I was on the west coast more often as I think we would have a tremendously awesome conversation over coffee. For me, I value being online and have recognized the traps of falling into the negativity hole and easily avoid them. Having an outlet to write about politics, that isn’t a personal site, has done wonders for me as well.

    Don’t forget about us, the ones that don’t have the capacity to meet in person. 🙂

    • March 3, 2017 at 6:42 am

      Hehe, that’s part of why my posts are generally going to be a little shorter! The more of my online time I spend writing my own posts, the less time I have to read others’ posts and reply to comments. Once in a while, I’m sure I’ll sit down and write something longer like “The New Jim Crow & The Nightmare River,” but that’ll be the exception.

      I’d much, much rather spend that online time exchanging comments here than on Twitter! The comments here are more sustaining, more reflective … which is not what everyone wants, but is surely what I want.

      So, you should be seeing more of me here, now that I’ve been excused myself from Twitter. 🙂 I’m still gonna be reading bunches, of course, but that’ll mostly be printed materials I can really sink into and fit into a broader framework.

  3. March 3, 2017 at 4:39 pm

    Oh, I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed this. You are so beautiful and I admire your ability to video yourself. If nothing else comes from this, your boys will be able to show their children and grandchildren just how great you are. I am sure we would enjoy a nice cup of tea together ( though I would have coffee-no problem with our differences). I have not figured Twitter out yet, but maybe that’s a good thing.

    • March 4, 2017 at 6:05 am

      Thank you so much for your kind words! I really wish I could teleport myself all around the world, or that we all could teleport to each other. Words go some of the distance, and videos a little further (or so says my heart), but … it would sure be nice to sit face to face and chat in living color. ♥

  4. March 3, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    This made me happy. Good choices! I’m currently poking around inside my head, figuring out what belongs and what doesn’t. It’s a messy but necessary process! I’ve firmly resisted Twitter and don’t feel any poorer for that. Got sucked back into Facebook and am sort of wishing I hadn’t been, but at the same time loving the connection it gives me with certain people who are too far for visiting. You’re right, though – it’s all about priorities.

    • March 4, 2017 at 6:08 am

      I tried out a Twitter-free Saturday a few weeks back. I felt so good, I decided to make it a weekly thing. Of course, doing that helped me see how much better I felt away from Twitter overall, which helped create a cascade of good things … especially after Athena’s “it’s not a priority” post gave me words for it all! This has had many positive ripple effects I’ll probably write about a little further down the road, but which are now still tender.

      Now, back to snuggling with the little ones, and reading one of Anthony’s old American Studies books! Happy Saturday. ♥

  5. March 6, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    I love your video and whole heartedly agree with you. I can get wrapped up with blogging and the internet and miss out on good books and moments with my husband. Thanks for the reminder that cutting back on Internet time and negative activity ( twitter) can feel so liberating and make life happier!😉

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