Don’t sacrifice my husband
After months of fury, I finally found my way to empathy earlier this week.
Finding it–seeking it–changed everything for me.
Doing so enabled me to find the root of my anger, followed by empathy for myself and then empathy for those with whom I’d been angry.
Read about that here.
(What’s written below is incomplete without it.)
Friends who voted for Trump: Please stand up for my husband and sons, and anyone else you witness being persecuted in the days and months ahead. I will stand up for you even as I rail against any and every injustice so much as suggested by Trump’s team.
Friends who voted for Clinton: Please stand up for my husband and sons, and anyone else you witness being persecuted in the days and months ahead.
Know that people of color–like my husband and sons–and other vulnerable citizens will bear the brunt of hostilities when fans of hate are flamed. Engaging potential allies with empathy is thus one of the most important ways you can protect more vulnerable members of society. Please stop fanning with your proclamations that everyone who voted for Trump is a bigot to be scorned.
Many people who voted for Trump are allies. I know a few personally, and know from listening to them that their votes were not cast in support of hate. Others could be allies, if approached with empathy instead of blanket condemnation. If understood as more than the sum of a single vote.
If you stand for my husband, my son, for Muslims, for hardworking immigrants, for refugees, for anyone who is currently on precarious footing as we all face a Trump presidency, you’ll practice engaging with empathy.
Please act in pursuit of peace. Protest not each other, but each and every Trump policy and action that is hateful.
Please don’t sacrifice my husband or sons to loudly condemn someone else for their vote and tell me you’re doing it for my family’s good.
We’ve all got a fight ahead, and we’ll fare better if we undertake it together.