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the love memo

Mom and Li'l D“take care of my family,”
said my then-future husband
as he hugged
my ex-boyfriend

thus began
a 900-mile drive
with my ex
to introduce
my son
to my

i know
from experience
this is the part
where you interrupt
in horror:


men and women can’t be friends!
exes can’t be friends!
it is against
the natural laws
of … uh, well,

is that so?

i’m glad
i missed
the memo

there is far
too much unlove
in the world
to willingly observe
those rules
that limit

this post
inspired by
a monday chat
with ra

ra-d wrestle

  1. July 15, 2016 at 5:56 am

    That was a great memo to miss. 🙂

  2. July 15, 2016 at 8:21 am

    Amen, sister! 🙂

  3. July 15, 2016 at 8:35 am

    I’m so thankful love has no borders, no eyes, no fear.
    Ra is amazing right. Just like you. And your husband.
    That moment, that photo, every time I see it my eyes well and I feel squishy inside. It gets me right in the feels.

    • July 15, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      I love your comment through and through! I’ve written my intro to your post, by the way, so that I read this afterward and went, “Yep, just affirmed!” Not that I needed further affirmation. ♥

  4. July 15, 2016 at 2:11 pm

    My partner is friends with some of his exes. It doesn’t bother me. I just tore that memo up when I got it. I wish more people would.

    • July 15, 2016 at 3:37 pm

      Ditto that wish! Anthony is still friends with at least one of his exes, and has many women friends … none of which is threatening to me. 🙂

  5. July 15, 2016 at 2:27 pm

    My ex wife and I stayed friends for years. We both agreed that anger and resentment weren’t something we wanted to live with for the rest of our lives.

    • July 15, 2016 at 3:39 pm

      Exactly so! In some cases (such as with abuse), it’s important it be final. But when it’s something like different aspirations for the future, the end of the romance need not be the end. Love is such a good thing to have, and so necessary for navigating hardships and hard times.

  6. July 15, 2016 at 2:45 pm

    Too much love would be barely enough.

    • July 15, 2016 at 3:40 pm

      I had to read the words “too much love” over and over again to wrap my mind around that combination. I’d love that to be the biggest problem facing and all of us. ♥

  7. July 15, 2016 at 5:27 pm

    We don’t need no stinkin’ memos. 🙂 I’m glad we love how we do. ♡ And that first picture, gets me every time.

    • July 16, 2016 at 1:21 pm


      For a long time, I was so sad how few pictures of Mom I have. There are scant few from before she became physically ill, so that what I have left are a handful from them.

      Now, though … now I am glad for the handful I have. And, like the balloons you wrote about recently, how the moments are imprinted on my heart whether or not I have the physical mementos.

      (One item I found after my last IG post was the green lanyard my mom wore around her neck while she died. I wept to hold it in my hands, and to know it was once so close to her. She is in that lanyard, and in me, and in my love. That is a beautiful thing, and that is what I feel when I look at this one of a handful of pictures of my mom that remains.)

    • July 16, 2016 at 1:23 pm

      Um, also … as I posted this, Brother Israel’s “Over the Rainbow” came up on iTunes. My mom’s in this, too. Aaaah.

  8. July 16, 2016 at 11:50 am

    ❤ both those photos!

    • July 16, 2016 at 11:55 am

      Hey! Since you’re here … I thought of you with a heart full of love while writing a post in my brain at the grocery store earlier. I’m writing the post now and I don’t know if you’ll make an appearance, but you’re in the love part of it times eleventy billion. Thank you for that.

      • July 16, 2016 at 11:56 am

        oh, thank you for THIS^^
        I’ll be smiling all day now… 😀

        • July 16, 2016 at 1:23 pm

          I’m glad I posted this! I just finished the draft and was like, “Dude, where’s the love? How do I put it in?” Reading this exchange, I got an inkling. It may only be one shuffle closer, but that’s somethin’. ♥

          • July 16, 2016 at 1:26 pm

            🙂 ❤

  9. July 18, 2016 at 5:34 am

    I stayed friends with my ex untill he died. I still miss him.

    • July 23, 2016 at 6:55 am

      I love this. My ex and I don’t really talk anymore, but it’s not from hostility based on our last exchange … just more of living much different lives right now.

      I hope you have a lovely Saturday. ♥

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