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His own messes

Two years
and three hours ago,
I met my littlest boy
on the tenth anniversary
of my meeting his dad.

I thought,
“No problemo,
I already have one
great kid, so this will
be a piece of cake!”

(As if two souls
could be exactly alike,
and Littler was just
another Li’l … )

The last two years
(and three hours)
have involved a steep
learning curve,
for Littler is not just
a smaller Li’l, and
there is less of me
all around
to go around.

I have often
asked myself how
my own mom could
raise four kids by herself
when I could barely manage two,
with a partner.

But the premise is wrong,
the question is wrong,
and I have done
myself wrong
by not reframing
the question sooner.

For two years,
I have had the pleasure
of loving my chocolate-
and truck-adoring littlest one,
and cherished seeing
him playing with
his older brother.

I have (mostly)
enjoyed learning,
practically speaking,
that no two souls are the same,
and also that my capacities
for exhaustion and love alike
are far greater than I could
have imagined two years
and a day ago.

Today I celebrate
two years of my
too-early riser,
and wonder what all
I will learn–about
Littler, and life–
in the two years ahead.

But mostly, I rejoice
the little one who makes messes
wherever he goes, and laughs so
heartily while making them that
it’s impossible (mostly)
to be mad at him
for learning about
this messy world
by making his
own messes.


Happy birthday, sweet sweets-lover

  1. April 1, 2016 at 5:14 am

    Your words- feelings- are so honest, sweet and beautiful.
    Happy birthday to your littlest who is so very fortunate to be yours!

  2. April 1, 2016 at 5:19 am

    Great photo! They are a treasure, full of surprises, but mostly they teach us the heart has no boundaries. Happy Birthday to Littler!

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:26 am

      Thank you! “Treasure” is right. Our celebration yesterday was messy, but also, in the way you describe, boundless. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. April 1, 2016 at 5:19 am

    Aww, this was so wonderful! Happy birthday to him!

  4. April 1, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Lovely tribute to a lovely boy. I too have a too-early riser. Oh, it pains me on the daily. But they’re so loveable!

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:28 am

      That was another way where I was quickly reminded D and J were not time-delayed duplicates. D has been an easy sleeper almost from day 1, but J finds sleep an irritating intrusion into all the things he could be doing.

  5. April 1, 2016 at 5:57 am

    Oh how lovely!! What a great 2 years, Happy Birthday to Littler!

  6. April 1, 2016 at 6:16 am

    Happy birthday to your messy, littler man! Thanks for letting us join you on the journey.

  7. Holly
    April 1, 2016 at 6:42 am

    Beautiful. Happy birthday Littler!

  8. Deb
    April 1, 2016 at 7:12 am

    Happy Birthday Littler!

  9. April 1, 2016 at 8:01 am

    Happy birthday sweets loving Littler! What a great day to have him on. I have found the greatest of moments in my children’s messes. Your words speak so lovingly to my heart. So beautifully written Hun. I hope your day with him is filled with messy hugs and kisses…because those are THE BESTEST!!!๐Ÿ’œ

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:33 am

      It was such a messy day, and so lovely! At lunch, both boys were working hard at making it look like a cyclone had hit, though I tried to tidy up after them. The biggest mess of all was what was supposed to be my water, which ended up being onion chili tobasco sugar salt water, and which J did in fact repeatedly sip from … yuck! What a day. โ™ก

      • April 2, 2016 at 7:31 am

        Shut the front door! You do Kitchen Concoctions too! It’s big business and bribery 101 between big and little siblings here. A fave is butter, cinnamon and sugar…microwave and drink without spitting. Gets the little ones every time! Yours sounds much more yucky. ๐Ÿ˜– I can’t believe they went back for more! Boys…

  10. April 1, 2016 at 10:01 am

    Awwww, what a loving tribute. Happy B-day, Little Guy! Many more. And trucks rule!

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:36 am

      We had a bunch of them in the car to help his birthday celebration! On the way home, we even saw a real car carrier. That’s almost as exciting as a dump truck to J, because it’s a truck … carrying other vehicles! All kinds of magic in that. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Suddenly remembering the folks who put all J’s favorite truck music videos together posted a new video yesterday! I meant to play it as J’s birthday cherry-on-top!

  11. April 1, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Aww happy birthday to your lovely boy. Such a gorgeous photo.

  12. April 1, 2016 at 11:41 am

    Happy birthday Littler! โค๏ธ

  13. April 1, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    A very happy birthday, and birthing day to you both.
    Yay for the differences. Yay for the love. You are sometimes stretched thinner than you thought possible, but it is the love which holds you together. Even when (particularly when?) you think it is not possible.

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:39 am

      Yesterday was a day full of love. It was a reminder of the truth in the book whose stress relieving recommendations I’m working to follow: pausing for time with folks you love isn’t an exhausting but invigorating thing. Good times all around, with more today! โ™ก

  14. Karin Antal
    April 1, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    Oh my goodness! It’s been 2 years already? Happiest of happies to your littlest one! xoxoxo

  15. April 1, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    Happy Birthday!

  16. April 1, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Love the picture. It should be titled “Here comes trouble!”

    • April 2, 2016 at 5:41 am

      LOL! Trouble is right, too, as he’s expanding his threat radius to include tall things, like the kitchen sink (mmm, tasty sponge water) or our dresser tops. ๐Ÿ™‚ / :0

  17. April 2, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    Oh he is just beautiful โค hope he had a wonderful day xx

    • April 8, 2016 at 4:55 pm

      He did, thanks! There were one or two moments I think he’d have given back, if he could, but overall it was a delight. ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. April 2, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    a beautiful expression
    of mother’s love ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. April 4, 2016 at 4:33 am

    So sweet! So adventurous! Such a challenge and your heart just grows, amazing isn’t it? So fortunate to have two young boys who will grow into two young men together, watch and see what happens…it always fascinated me.


    • April 8, 2016 at 4:56 pm

      Even through all the tired I’ve been facing head-on the last couple of weeks, I look at those little boys together and rejoice getting to see them grow individually … and together. What a gift it is. ♥

  20. April 4, 2016 at 10:47 am

    Choco! I love y’alls two very different little humans. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • April 8, 2016 at 4:56 pm

      And they love you, as do their parents!
      (Can’t decide whether to *hug* or *confetti* there–maybe *confetti hugs*?!)

      • April 8, 2016 at 4:58 pm

        *confetti hugs* ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. April 4, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Happy happy birthday! Also, I SO identify with this: “my capacities
    for exhaustion and love alike
    are far greater than I could
    have imagined”

    • April 8, 2016 at 4:58 pm

      ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€
      I’ll have this rare uninterrupted night of sleep and think, “Yes! Everything is possible!” And then it’ll go back to the usual interruptions, and I’ll drag through the million and eighteen decisions I have to make daily in the center of a hurricane and wonder what it’ll take to get back to where I was the day before. For you and me, I hope it’s just a matter of a little more time!

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