I am

I am Deborah Bryan,
and no longer Deborah Bryan.

My voice hasn't changed a bit!

I am a writer,
an author,
a twenty-year blogger,
and a 25-year journaler.

I am a mother,
a daughter,
a sister
(and a Sister),
a friend,
a wife
(to a Black man,
father of a little boy whose love of John Henry
reminds me how serious is the need for representation in media),
and a would-be superhero.


I am a law school grad
who decided to teach English in Japan
instead of practice law.

I am now a Software Asset Manager,
after a decade of negotiating software contracts.

img_20160102_163051.jpgI am a walker,
a hiker,
a sometimes runner,
and a (former?) marathoner
who finds release from anxiety
in motion.

I am a dreamer,
somewhat in hiding.
I used to be kinda funny,Β and creative,
but I don’t have much time
for that these days.

I am a survivor,
though not like my husband;
“sister, survivor, success,”
if you consult the
engraved flask
on my microwave.

That's Dr. Deefy BRYAN to you!

I was a TV extra,
especially happy to be on
Buffy, Firefly, and Scrubs.

bubble 3I am extremely introverted,
though most are confused by this
since I am not remotely shy.

I believe everything
and everyone
is interconnected,
and that all are created equal,
without regard to trifles likeΒ salary or title,
which is a greatΒ part of my
not giving a fuck what you think.

I am an advocate
and a mentor.

I am hopeful.
I am born of stardust.
I am forever.


This post
inspired by Solveig Werner.

  1. February 3, 2016 at 4:23 am

    You forgot… “I am brilliant though I often fail to recognize my own worth.”

    And you are brilliant, my friend.
    We’ve never met but we’ve shared portions of our lives for years and I can honestly say you’ve enriched my life incalculably. And I thank you.

    • February 3, 2016 at 4:27 am

      Thank you so, so much for this.

      I was awakened way too early by entreaties to tell Li’l D about my dreams, and listen to his dreams, and think about the day ahead, and so on and so forth. I thus got up before 2 a.m., groggy and grumpy, and put in an hour of work before wondering, “What is there beyond this tired moment?”

      I felt uplifted by reflecting on that by writing this. I now feel even more uplifted for having read your words. Thank you. You are such a light to me.

      • February 3, 2016 at 4:30 am

        Hey, I do what I can…

      • February 3, 2016 at 5:03 am

        Up before 2am????

        • February 3, 2016 at 5:07 am

          Yep, D woke me up with lots of insights that he had to share THAT VERY MOMENT. It seemed like I was going to be able to fall back to sleep, but then he added bunches more questions so that my brain went, “Okay, well, I guess that means ‘good morning!'” Nooooo!

          • February 3, 2016 at 10:22 pm

            Aaargh!! Did he at least get back to sleep afterwards? What time do you have to be up on a normal day?

  2. February 3, 2016 at 4:27 am

    Holy smokes, I already knew you were awesome, but you were an extra on Firefly, loved that show.
    I wish I was half the things you are, you’re amazing πŸ™‚

    • February 3, 2016 at 4:30 am

      The fact I was an extra on Firefly is truly a testament to the kindness of strangers! The only reason that happened was the kindness of a fellow extra who’d (earlier) heard me saying I’d given up on listening for postings for that show.

      I’m confident that you are an array of amazing things of some like and some different characteristics! πŸ™‚

  3. February 3, 2016 at 4:29 am

    You’ve written a lot of posts about things you are! πŸ™‚ and I don’t think I’ve read most of them. Will be remedied soon πŸ˜‰

    • February 3, 2016 at 4:30 am

      LOL! I realized I’d be linking about 300 posts if I didn’t pare it down, so this is the shortlist. :p

      • February 3, 2016 at 5:03 am

        πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

      • February 3, 2016 at 10:23 pm

        That wouldn’t be bad either πŸ™‚

  4. February 3, 2016 at 4:53 am

    That is a great “I am” post! I followed a couple of links and may come back for more. Anyway, very cool, condensing it down to this one post. It’s good to get to know you a little better. Solveig did come up with a great idea!

    • February 5, 2016 at 10:58 pm

      I would love to see more “I am” posts! I’ve been reluctant to affix anything label-like to myself, but am finding I really identify with some more and more strongly as time passes. It was good to sit and reflect on all that without getting all self-judgey. πŸ™‚

  5. Holly
    February 3, 2016 at 5:27 am

    I love seeing it all “spelled out” like this. Great share and compilation of you, my friend. πŸ™‚

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  7. February 3, 2016 at 6:15 am

    Beautiful! And I giggled over your introvert comment – as you aren’t shy; because I am very self-confident, but extremely shy! I think the word “socially awkward” was invented for me, cause it’s hard to balance out those two traits!!

    • February 5, 2016 at 11:01 pm

      Hear that! Life has been much more pleasant for me since I embraced my own social awkwardness instead of trying to force it to be something else.

      πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

  8. February 3, 2016 at 6:40 am

    Oh what a great post! It comes so timely as I received your book yesterday, thank you soooooooo much! And as I will mention you in my next post (if my daughter lets me that is…)
    It is nice finding out who you are. And I will come back to check out those links.
    Thank you for joining in the “who am I?” fun. πŸ˜‰

    • February 5, 2016 at 11:02 pm

      I’d so enjoy reading more! I might ask my husband about writing his own, whether or not he posts it.

  9. February 3, 2016 at 6:42 am

    This is fascinating + delightful. Straightforward, when most people choose to obfuscate. I like the format– and getting to know you better. Thanks.

    • February 6, 2016 at 5:58 am

      Thank you! I spent a lot of drive time the last few days thinking about some of the prerequisites for this post being what it was, apart from Solveig’s inspiration. It’s amazing to be able to so clearly trace the last year’s often uncomfortable trajectory to feeling comfortable writing this, in this way. So glad for the risks I took, and for learning to take risks …

  10. February 3, 2016 at 6:44 am

    I am … Happy the Universe brought us together.

    • February 6, 2016 at 5:59 am

      Ditto that. I get a little rush of yay! every time I see your name.
      (I might be in your neck of the woods before too long. I’ll email you!)

  11. February 3, 2016 at 7:08 am

    You are amazing.
    You are loved.

  12. February 3, 2016 at 8:25 am

    This is lovely! Well done! Came by from Solveig’s blog

  13. February 3, 2016 at 10:33 am

    You are indeed.
    And that is just the start.

  14. February 3, 2016 at 5:32 pm

    Elegantly written. Thanks for sharing.

  15. February 3, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    And you are awesome!

  16. February 3, 2016 at 9:15 pm

    All those components add up to a pretty fantastic woman! I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about some aspects of your life I wouldn’t have known. I, too, absolutely totally believe we are all connected and if you can pass that belief onto your children you will be giving the world a gift! Really nice to know you, Deborah!

    • February 6, 2016 at 6:02 am

      I hope I’m able to pass this on to my boys! I see little glimmers of it here and there in Li’l D’s words and actions, which fills me with joy. ♥

      Really nice to know you, too! I’m glad, too, for the sudden reminder to explore different botanical gardens in the near future. πŸ˜€

  17. February 4, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Thank you Deborah for this post. You give me courage to write something like this for myself as well πŸ’•

    • February 6, 2016 at 6:02 am

      Oooh, I would love to read yours, if you do end up writing such a thing! Fingers crossed. ♥

  18. February 4, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    Wonderful post. You sum up well, Deborah. πŸ™‚

  19. February 4, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    … and so much more. Great poem/poet.

  20. February 4, 2016 at 11:24 pm

    I am forever….yes, yes you certainly are…..

    • February 6, 2016 at 6:04 am

      The oven timer went off just as I finished my last comment. As I make my way through the rest of the morning, I will surely be warmed by the loving words here.

      I hope others–such as yourself–write who-I-am posts so I can leave some of my own reflections. ♥

      • February 6, 2016 at 2:29 pm


  21. February 7, 2016 at 6:21 am

    You are:

    I am certain I could go on, I wanted to remind you though there is so much more.


  22. February 20, 2016 at 7:36 am

    Intro to you! I loved it. I look forward to reading more.

  23. April 2, 2016 at 8:01 am

    You were on Scrubs??? Shut the front door. AND Firefly?!?! I can’t handle this info. You’re too awesome. I mean you were really cool before when you were kind, accepting, willing to give to those you have never met. And your ability to speak to ones soul with a single line of writing. But now that I know you’re a celebrity? Well this is a whole different level! Lol

    I just had to tell you that while I was up all night I thought of your kindness, and there is one thing you forgot to add to ‘I am…’

    You are an angel. πŸ’œ

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