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Seeking a Friend at the End of the World

I rang in the 2016 with my husband, Ra, my friend Emily, and Emily’s husband.

After the not-my-husband folk left in the wee minutes of the year, Anthony and I curled up on our sofa to watch Seeking a Friend at the End of the World. Anthony had watched it a couple days earlier and said I’d love it. 

I’d originally heard of the movie and thought, “How depressing! There‘s a movie I’ll never watch.” Indeed, I’d never have watched it if Anthony hadn’t reported he’d laughed and bawled and found it captivating. Because he recommended it so highly, I was willing to give it a shot.

Last night, I fell asleep twenty seconds into the film, awakening only for the final minute of the movie. “Well, yeah, pretty much what I’d expected,” I thought as I crawled into bed and fell back to sleep for a whopping hour.

When my littlest one awakened at 3;55 a.m., I groaned. I willed him to go back to sleep. When he showed no indication he planned to observe my telepathic request, I got up with him and, bleary-eyed, wondered how on earth I’d keep myself awake. Coffee’s not my solution; anything more than a half-cup very early makes sleep impossible for me.

“Might as well restart the movie,” I murmured to Littler J. A little motion in the background can go a long way to making me feel like I, too, ought be moving. Littler J, for his part, could not have cared less what was on the TV. He was much more interested in chewing his way through his brother’s stuffed dog collection.

I only half-watched the first ten minutes, but slowly shifted focus more and more toward the TV. By the time six-year-old Li’l D awakened an hour later, I was engrossed.

(This is pretty uncommon for me. I tend to see non-horror movies as sleep aids versus actual entertainment sources.)

“Are you crying?” Li’l D asked when he joined me. “Yes,” I told him. I quickly explained the movie’s premise.

“So you’re crying because the world is ending?” he inquired, flopping onto the sofa.

“No.” I smiled, nodding toward the characters on the screen. “It’s because of what they’re making of what they have.”

I watched the last minutes of the movie with Li’l D nestled into my lap, Anthony holding my left hand and Littler J fidgeting at my right knee.

I wept through the movie’s final moments, but–like before–I wasn’t crying about any ending. Rather, I was caught up in the irrepressible beauty of right now: in the movie, and on my sofa.

“Watching this was the perfect way to begin the new year,” I told Anthony as credits rolled and tears streamed down my face. I hadn’t started the morning with any particular resolutions for the new year, but beginning it with one fictional end illuminated everything for me.

What do I want from 2016? A single thing both mundane and grandiose; to, as Colin Hay sings of a lover’s entreaty:

Just be here now
Forget about the past
Let the light shine in

The song concludes, “On a clear day I can see / see a very long way.” Thanks to the core truth in a remarkable work of fiction, today is a very, very clear day, and I can see better than ever the forever in now.

these boys

these boys, this couch, this life

  1. January 1, 2016 at 7:53 am

    Wishing you a clear and happy 2016, Deb. ❤

  2. January 1, 2016 at 7:55 am

    Happy New Year! Here’s to more friends, better sleep, and fewer tears — except when the tears are absolutely necessary!

  3. January 1, 2016 at 8:06 am

    What a way to bring in the new year! Happy New Day to you Deborah!

  4. January 1, 2016 at 8:28 am

    Happy New Year, 2016 Deborah 🙂 The picture at the end, um, it made me feel like the way you describe the movie’s plot made you feel. What a cuddly way to bring in the New Year! Authentically warm and fuzzy now. Thanks, Ka

    • January 1, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      ♥ It was absolutely perfect. I’m still feeling tired from the short night’s sleep (and those preceding it), but far and away more profoundly I feel thankful. That moment’s a light in my heart. I hope your day and the year that follows are full of warmth and connection!

      • January 5, 2016 at 11:09 am

        Thank you, Deborah! Lots of cozy, and lots of love. Feeling very fortunate, as your well wishes add to our happiness. Aloha~2016

  5. January 1, 2016 at 8:43 am

    Lovely post x Happy New Year x

  6. January 1, 2016 at 8:44 am

    Happy 2016! Thanks for sharing, I was wondering if that movie was worth a look.

    • January 1, 2016 at 12:12 pm

      I’m usually reluctant to recommend movies because what I enjoy isn’t often what those around me enjoy, but this … this is a movie I’d heartily recommend to anyone seeking and finding joy in affirmation of our interconnectedness. So beautiful. Happy 2016!

  7. January 1, 2016 at 8:50 am

    I loved that film! I was awakened to the romantic “hero” potential of Steve Carell after watching Dan in Real Life. I absolutely loved him, and his pairing with Keira in Seeking a friend. I especially loved how the housekeeper kept turning up. Steve Carell is so good at playing the nice guy!

    • January 1, 2016 at 12:13 pm

      I think of him as the goofy Office dude and voice of Gru, so I was astonished by how he became the role. He and Keira were lovely individually, and even lovelier together. I will definitely be buying a DVD of this and rewatching!

      • January 1, 2016 at 9:12 pm

        I highly recommend Dan in Real Life then, where he plays opposite Juliette Binoche. When you think about it, even The 40 year old Virgin, opposite Catherine Keener, had its romantic moments. I adore him as Gru as well, but I’d love to see him in more romantic roles!

  8. January 1, 2016 at 9:28 am

    Happy New Year!!

  9. N.
    January 1, 2016 at 11:00 am

    Happy new year! Sounds like a movie worth seeing 😆

  10. January 1, 2016 at 11:18 am

    Not a movie I have seen, but a premise I support.
    And isn’t it wonderful that blogging gives us friends at the ends of the world? All of the ends of the world.

  11. January 1, 2016 at 11:27 am

    Very wise admonishment for the New Yeat! Thank you!

  12. January 1, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    I can’t wait to see that movie now! Wishing you a happy new year, Deb. And always let the light shine in.

  13. January 1, 2016 at 2:54 pm

    Happy New Year, Deb!

  14. January 1, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    Happy New Year! I’ll have to check that out when Baby Girl has her own middle of the night session.

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  16. March 31, 2016 at 1:21 pm

    I’ve never heard of this movie! I’ll have to check it out

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