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To benefit from my strengths


Today I got a job offer.

A job offer is good in most circumstances, but this job offer was great.

This was a job offer with a company I love
with a team I already know I love
for a position that enables me to
use my law degree peripherally,
instead of heavily.

After a decade negotiating software contracts, I’m excited thrilled to grow in new directions, and to do so in such excellent company! And yet, decades after moving out of my childhood home of heartbreak, I find I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Every good thing comes at a cost, doesn’t it? Doesn’t it?!


I told a colleague-friend I felt this way. She smiled, shook her head, and said, “Ride the wave! There’s no other shoe coming. You’re coming into the good you deserve, that’s all. Just ride it! Be happy for it.”

So, this evening, I am going to try riding the wave. Accepting great. Believing in it. Believing I deserve it. Being thrilled for the opportunity to grow in a new direction with a team that sees both my strengths and weaknesses … and will happily help diminish my weaknesses, to benefit from my strengths.

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  1. December 2, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    Let’s hear it for Team Deborah!
    Congratulations, beautiful!

    • December 2, 2015 at 6:35 pm

      Thank you so much, Hook. I’m smiling reading this, and feeling maybe it’s not a mistake at all.

      • December 2, 2015 at 6:40 pm

        I realize change is scary but you’re the Thing That Bumps Back Against The Things That Go Bump In The Night, right?

        • December 2, 2015 at 6:43 pm

          I got something in both my eyes reading that, sir.

          Thank you. With a great big dose of hugs.

          • December 2, 2015 at 6:46 pm

            Hugs rule!
            Good night, Deborah.
            I’m almost finished “working” for the night.

  2. December 2, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I’m pretty sure this is the reward for all you’ve dealt with in the last couple of positions (long commute anyone?!?) Congratulations! I smiled as I read this and could feel the excitement and good energy just radiating from you!

    • December 2, 2015 at 6:43 pm

      First, ❤

      Second, I actually got off the phone with my new team and did a little dance today. I apologized to the colleague nearest me at that moment, to which he scoffed and said, "This kind of enthusiasm makes everyone's day brighter!"

      I am SO excited! 😀

  3. December 2, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Yay!!!!!! Congratulations. 🙂

  4. December 2, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Congrats!! You got this! There’s no other shoe, I promise!

  5. December 2, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    Wonderful news! I’m so happy for you!!! 🙂

  6. December 2, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    Happy dances.
    Why is it always easier to believe bad things than good? (Particularly about ourselves).
    Hooray for single shoes…

    • December 2, 2015 at 7:54 pm

      That is a great.question! Since I don’t have an answer, I will instead lock onto the words “single shoes.” 🙂

  7. December 2, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    Way to go!!!! That’s awesome! ❤

  8. December 2, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    Congratulations! I think we all experience the same feelings when good things begin to happen. I suppose on some level we’re all glass half-empty. But I agree riding the wave is the way to go. We need to revel in the joys when they happen. Helps us weather the storms.

  9. Deb
    December 2, 2015 at 7:48 pm


  10. December 2, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    I agree, ride the wave and enjoy. Don’t try to attract negativity, when you don’t need to.
    Congratulations 🙂

  11. December 2, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    WHOOOOHOOO!!! 🙂 I hope it involves less commuting…

    • December 3, 2015 at 3:55 am

      I’ll be at the same company, so the commute will be the same. The good news is that it’s a little less than it was when I first wrote about it. Since D started first grade, I’ve been able to work shorter hours in-office to avoid the worst of the traffic. It’s been a huge load off! 🙂

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  13. December 2, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    Congratulations. They say here that what’s for you will not go by you, so this is for you 🙂

    • December 3, 2015 at 3:57 am

      I love that take! I woke it in a mid-night bout of wakefulness. It felt so right, I tried it on and found it fit. ♡

  14. December 3, 2015 at 1:29 am

    That is wonderful news and totally makes me smile. My face doesn’t do that this early, typically, that is powerfully good news.

  15. December 3, 2015 at 4:32 am

    Many congratulations. Brilliant news 🙂

  16. December 3, 2015 at 5:09 am

    Congrats. Ride the wave, and put the other shoe on a rope behind you. Like when people tie shoes to the back bumper of a car after a wedding. I think that brings good luck!

    • December 3, 2015 at 5:19 am

      Thanks! Also, I’d seen that once or twice and wondered what it was about, but never remembered to look up the custom when back around a computer!

      I just looked up a few explanations for the custom, all of which share in common luck-wishing/bringing. 🙂

  17. December 3, 2015 at 5:52 am

    Congratulations on your job offer!

  18. December 3, 2015 at 6:05 am

    Good for you! And I know the feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop or in my case, often, waiting to be found out Interesting NY Times article on that subject if you’re interested…..http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/26/your-money/learning-to-deal-with-the-impostor-syndrome.html?_r=0

    • December 3, 2015 at 4:30 pm

      Thank you! I’ll check out the article! (Opened the link in another window, actually.)

      In this case, I actually feel like it’s a perfect fit and that I’ll excel at the job. The weakness isn’t intrinsic in me, but in my background compared to the particular position. (Indeed, they wouldn’t call ’em weaknesses but “learning opportunities.”) I’m happy to walk in knowing I’ll be able to bridge that gap, and to have the opportunity to do so. YES!

  19. December 3, 2015 at 6:35 am

    Congratulations! And your friend is right, you should definitely follow through when something as good as this comes along. How many of us can expect something so amazing? You deserve to enjoy it when it does happen!

  20. December 3, 2015 at 8:21 am

    Congratulations! :):):):):):)

  21. December 3, 2015 at 8:26 am

    Congrats! May it turn out to be everything you hoped!

    • December 3, 2015 at 4:32 pm

      The good news about this is that I’m moving from contracting in one organization to working direct in another organization within the same company. The landscape is very, very familiar to me, so that I make the transition with hopes and expectations aligned. 😀

  22. December 3, 2015 at 8:44 am

    Good for you! Get into the work and the task of doing your best–which you will do–will drive all the fears out the window. Congratulations!

    • December 3, 2015 at 4:36 pm

      Thank you, and I love your thought on this! I actually had lunch with an old manager, who smiled and said it sounded like I’d gotten out of my head. He’s right. The more I do that–the more I’m in now, instead of thinking about now, then, and then–the less afraid and more exuberant I am. Thank you again!

  23. Holly
    December 3, 2015 at 9:33 am

    Go you! Enjoy the moment and the height of your excitement, you worked hard for it and deserve it!

    • December 3, 2015 at 4:38 pm

      See … these words? Magic. It’s not like I’m falling into this on accident. I worked hard and got myself to this point, so that–instead of waiting for the other shoe to fall–I should perhaps look at it as this all being what happens after the other shoe fell. 😀

  24. December 3, 2015 at 10:45 am

    Congratulations! I hope it’s a fun ride on that wave.

  25. December 3, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    How wonderful! Your colleague is right – enjoy this great news, Deb.

  26. December 3, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    Terrific, Deb! I read a terrific quote (in, I think, I didn’t have my glasses on,) recently. I’m paraphrasing it, but:

    The folks trying to decide if the glass is half full or half empty are missing the point. The glass is refillable.

    May your glass be refilled to the brim with this job and when it runs low, you know what to do.

    • December 3, 2015 at 4:43 pm

      I LOVE THAT! Thank you … and you’re right, I do. ♥

    • December 4, 2015 at 12:53 pm

      Yes, this. All of this. Ride the wave…and let it fill your glass at the same time, Deb. And always remember: waves are not one-time events either.


  27. December 3, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you.

  28. December 4, 2015 at 3:46 am

    I love the quote from Elyse! Ride the wave Deb, there isn’t another shoe you have simply paid the dues and are now getting to the place you are meant to be. Huge hugs! ❤

  29. December 5, 2015 at 7:05 am

    Congratulations on the new job!

    • December 5, 2015 at 7:17 am

      Thank you! It’s exciting to be starting down a new path in such excellent company, but I confess to being a little nervous as well. 🙂

  30. December 5, 2015 at 9:15 am

    Yeah, congratulations, this is such great news! I’m really happy for you 🙂 xx

  31. December 5, 2015 at 9:23 am

    Huge congrats to you. If there’s another shoe…kick it away. 😉

  32. December 6, 2015 at 10:49 am

    I agree with your friend, D! Ride the wave and if you fall off the wave, you learn to swim and get back on top of it….Enjoy! Enjoy! Enjoy! And celebrate…. 🙂

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