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One very happy Tribus

Another day,
I might choose
three very different things
meaningful and moving to me.

my older son
held his sixth birthday party.
So, today, these are three things
so prominent in my heart
it’s impossible to think
much beyond them.

why would I want to?


My senior year of college, I took a stress relief seminar for upper level credit. I didn’t expect to get anything more than credit from it.

I smirked when the instructor said rainbows and bubbles both ease stress. Sure they do! But when she brought out bubbles and rainbow pictures, I realized she was right. I was absorbed completely by rainbows and especially bubbles, which shine rainbow colors in the right light.

I watched bubbles drifting through the air today and felt that calm rippling through me. I watched my toddler, Littler J, try to catch bubbles Ra blew and thought how perfect life is made by seemingly simple things.


Bounce houses

I loved these as a little girl.

I can’t bounce on them as long now that I’m a grownup bigger, but I relish the bounces I do get. Better still is watching my boys bounce. (Okay, so Littler J mostly tries to stay upright, but he giggles so at the challenge!)

Today we set up a bounce house in our own yard. When Li’l D told me he wanted his party at our house, I wasn’t thrilled. Our house is typically a disaster zone, a reflection of a very conscious choice. Having a party at our house would mean letting people into said house, which would mean extra awkward conversation for this already awkward introvert. I was exhausted even thinking about it.

But here’s the thing: It was so right. Our driveway was filled with chatter and activity, and my not-so-little boy blew out candles in our home. I feel the joy of the birthday song being sung here hours after Li’l D blew out his candles. Some ghosts are sweet; the ghosts of good times number among these.

Today blended Inside and Outside, and it was lovely. It was loveliest of all watching Li’l D bouncing around with his friends here. Their laughter is now part of this space; the ghosts of that laughter rippling around the living room now, and forever a part of our sense of home.



We all went to the beach last weekend.

Littler J was so overwrought afterward, nothing would calm him …

… until, finally, LI’l D set down what he was holding and opened his arms to Littler, who stopped howling and stepped slowly toward Li’l D before turning around and scooting into his lap.

The two sat together quietly for several minutes before J, finally calm, accepted the inevitability of bedtime and settled into his crib.

It’s not always so amicable between my boys, but I tell you: Moments like these more than make up for the others.

These brothers light my world, on Tribus and every day,


  1. September 26, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    So happy for all of you!

  2. September 26, 2015 at 9:02 pm

    Heartwarming and beautiful. For you all.
    And this adult loves and celebrates rainbows and bubbles. I hope I always will.

  3. September 26, 2015 at 9:47 pm

    Happy Tribus indeed 🙂 Happy birthday to the birthday boy!

    • September 27, 2015 at 2:13 am

      Thank you! I’m wondering where the last six years have gone (so quickly!), but so very glad to be here. 🙂

      • September 27, 2015 at 7:24 am

        They grow up way faster than you realise. Lilly is not yet 2 but sometimes I look at her and am literally surprised at how big she’s gotten!

  4. September 26, 2015 at 10:07 pm

    I love these boys, bubbles, and birthday.Infinite love. Thank you for celebrating Tribus, and thank you for letting me celebrate this beautiful day with your family. ❤

    • September 27, 2015 at 2:16 am

      I don’t know how better to express this feeling in my heart than to say … to my heart, you’re part of this family. Thank you; ♥

  5. September 26, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    I hope Li’l D had a wonderful birthday, it seems like you had the makings of a brilliant party 🙂

    • September 27, 2015 at 2:21 am

      He did! I had a mild case of nerves going into it, having grown up one of the odd ones, but was reminded again there’s no cause–today–for such worries. All is well, as Li’l D’s laughter reminded me. Li’l D is well loved, and I soaked that up today. 🙂

  6. September 27, 2015 at 5:43 am

    Wanted to say your boy is adorable!!

  7. September 27, 2015 at 6:54 am

    Such a happy tribus!!

  8. September 27, 2015 at 9:34 am

    I get the feeling Li’l D is a lot like his daddy… 🙂

    • September 28, 2015 at 6:24 pm

      YES! And, of course, just as I typed that, I looked up to see D and Anthony with their faces tilted down at the exact same angle, alit by the exact same look of intense focus. D’aw.

  9. A
    September 27, 2015 at 11:44 am

    BEST Happy (belated) Tribus Day post I’ve read!!! So. Much. LOVE! Yayyyy!!!!! 😃

    • September 28, 2015 at 6:25 pm

      Thank you! Falling asleep that night, I was so full of love for blogging. I would have enjoyed the day even had I not been seeking three things I celebrate deeply … but looking for them, guided in that way, made it so much easier to see and appreciate. What joy to have been called to look!

  10. September 28, 2015 at 3:45 am

    This was such a happy, no joyous post it made me grin reading it.

  11. September 28, 2015 at 5:30 pm

    Beautiful boys! Congrats on the 6th birthday!

    • September 28, 2015 at 6:26 pm

      Thanks! It’s been an interesting momaversary. 🙂

      Looking at my little dude now and so glad for these last six years.

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