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Hello, iPad, goodbye

Two and a half months ago, I chose to trade URLs for stars.

It was such a fantastic trade, I told my husband I’d go ahead and misplace my iPad again if I did find it.

“No way!” he protested. “If you find it again and still don’t want it, I’ll have it. Mine is about to brick.”

I considered this. “Yeah, I could do that, if you wanted to give yours to the boys afterward.”

I continued exerting no effort whatsoever toward finding my iPad. Without it, I only get online for a specific reason, and for just as long as I need to be.

Free time actually feels free again.

My husband found my iPad a few days ago. I immediately began hauling it around with me as if my life depended upon it.

When Li’l D found it last night, he cheered before reminding me–roughly seventeen times–that he could have Daddy’s computer now.

“Not just yet!” I told him. “Daddy has to get the computers set up just how he wants ’em.”

“So I have all the games I want?”

“Something like that!”

It’s funny to remember how excited I was to have an iPad a few years back.

Now I am even more excited to pass it off.

It’s convenient to have information constantly accessible.

But that accessibility works both ways. I am drawn to even as I draw from.

I’d so much rather gaze at the stars and dream of all the life I have yet to live, well outside the reaches of the grid.

  1. June 11, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    You probably want Li’l D to be gazing at the stars rather than the computer, as well. This was something of a balancing act when my kids were coming up, but not nearly as much as now when almost every young child has a computer. I don’t envy you parents trying to keep your kids engaged in real life when there is so much available online for so little effort.

    • June 11, 2015 at 2:09 pm

      It’s true! D earns screen time as well as a tiny allowance. He earns 20 minutes for 20+ minutes of reading, 20 minutes for eating all his food and occasionally 20 minutes for other jobs well done. (Friday night is more of a free for all!)

      I was using a computer from the time I was his age. I used it to play games like Facemaker, King’s Quest and SCUBA Venture. My access was limited, which was part of what made those moments of access so exciting. πŸ™‚

  2. June 11, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    “I’d so much rather gaze at the stars and dream of all the life I have yet to live, well outside the reaches of the grid.” Very well said!

    • June 12, 2015 at 4:27 am

      Thank you.

      If only it were as easily done as said! But then, I’d miss the fun of being challenged …

  3. June 11, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Well, yes, and no. I very selfishly wish you to stay accessible. Please make sure you earn some screen time yourself. (It’s cloudy. No stars tonight.)

    • June 12, 2015 at 4:30 am

      I’ll remain as accessible as I have the last two and a half months! It just won’t be in the middle of the night, or every moment of the evening. It’ll be when my desire to do something on the computer is strong enough for me to actually make the time to sit at the computer for a few minutes, as now.

      I’ll probably continue being atrocious at replying to emails. That felt like a failing for a while. Now I see that in a life full of bustle and always too much driving and to do, I don’t need one other must- or should-do. Sometimes it tickles me that I blog more often than I write emails, but this is an outlet. This fulfills a different set of needs, as it has now for two weeks shy of 20 years.

      • June 12, 2015 at 5:24 am

        It does sometimes seem disturbing just how Pavlovian our responses to technology become. πŸ˜•

  4. June 12, 2015 at 8:41 am

    I just got my first one – well, Mr. T bought his grandmother’s old one and gave it to me for Mother’s Day, Birthday and every other “day” this year, and I’ve enjoyed it. I don’t carry it with me, but it gives me an option where I don’t have to open my laptop – and, I check Facebook when I’m on the stationary bike! πŸ™‚

  5. June 12, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    β€œI’d so much rather gaze at the stars and dream of all the life I have yet to live, well outside the reaches of the grid.” That actually summed it up for me!
    I have been trying to get used to the idea of having this much technology that our generation has suddenly been bombarded with. It is intact more difficult for us to get used to the idea since we know of a time without it. And we can compare and we know, deep down inside that the time we lived without it was infinitely richer than right now. And that bit of knowledge is what makes it all so, so difficult!

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