Home > Communication, Family, Los Angeles, Love, Parenting, Reflections, Twitter > One fine Freshly Pressed day

One fine Freshly Pressed day

When it rains, it pours.

Sometimes terrible circumstances converge, making it hard to keep my head above water.

Other times, the rain is a downpour of a feathers and fairy dust. I’m submerged but breathing, and it all feels glorious. Yesterday was just such a day.

I got to spend time with my baby son.

I’ll return to paying work soon, but for now I am able to set the pace of daily life … with some input from my seven-month-old!

Two weeks ago I only got to spend a few waking minutes with him daily. After watching him crawl around my living room and attempt to eat everything at floor level yesterday, I was able to sit and just watch him sleep before returning to chores that have long evaded me.

sleepy j

My mom’s seventh grandchild was born.

My youngest sister called me a little before noon. She didn’t even need to tell me the news, for I heard the mewling of my newest nephew the moment I answered the phone.

I came to know (and love!) most my cousins later in life. My sons are growing up knowing and enjoying their cousins, who will hopefully be some of the closest friends they carry with them through their lives.

My birthday letter to my mom was Freshly Pressed.

Thanks to rockin’ blogger Twindaddy‘s Twitter vote last week, a letter I wrote my mom on our shared birthday was Freshly Pressed.

twindaddy vote

My mom was known in my hometown for her mental illness, her poverty, her brashness and her too frequent garage sales. Wherever I went, I found people all too willing to tell me the things my mom didn’t do quite right. As her mental illness took over more of her life, those same people told my siblings and me how we weren’t doing enough for our mom … as if they had any idea about the truths of our lives.

It’s an honor to have any post Freshly Pressed, but especially beautiful that this one was. What my childhood neighbors saw was only a fraction of the real, amazing woman whose strength helped shape my own.

A wider audience can now see why I love my mom so fiercely.

I introduced my sons to the privilege of voting.

Speaking of voting …

It’s hard explaining voting to a five-year-old, but much more exciting when the five-year-old gets to see voting in action.

My baby voted only for sleep, but he got a sticker anyway.

just voted

My older son declined to be photographed with his “JUST VOTED” sticker. 🙂

It was day 30 of my third Whole30.

I eat clean to help me manage my chemical sensitivities to things like deodorant, perfume and most cleaning agents.

Sometimes I eat cleaner than others. I do a 30-day reset when my sensitivities start going especially wild. This means eating vegetables, meat, good fat and a dash of fruit for at least 30 days. I feel great doing this, but it can be challenging to bid my beloved lemon cupcakes adieu. For a month.

It’s super sweet to know I could eat that cupcake today. I’m not going to, but I could … and that’s its very own treat!

I got to listen to The Woody Show.

OK, so technically I get to listen every weekday morning, but I cheer for these irreverent radio personalities every day. They remind me not to take things so seriously. So, to them I say thanks … and suck it!*

(They won’t take offense. Trust me.)

Now I’d like to get to know you a little!

Why do you blog? If you don’t blog, why do you read blogs?

What hope gets you out of bed every morning?

Who are you? Who do you want to be?

* A footnote for Mike the Show Killer: I know you mean well, but for the love of Pete … there’s no need to tweak perfection!


  1. November 5, 2014 at 9:28 am

    awesome on being freshly pressed! and well deserved 🙂

    • November 5, 2014 at 9:36 am

      Thank you! I am still feeling aglow, all the more what with getting to have coffee with a friend this morning. The shoe might drop this afternoon, but right now, I am enjoying the shoe-free skies!

  2. November 5, 2014 at 9:30 am

    Congrats on the FP, Deb! Enjoy your extra moments with the boys. I can’t believe how fast time is flying, wasn’t he just born??

    • November 5, 2014 at 9:39 am

      Thanks, Darla! It really feels like we brought him home yesterday, so I can barely make sense of the fact he’s mobile! Folks told me time felt faster the older we get, but I really didn’t understand just how …

  3. November 5, 2014 at 9:50 am

    Congrats on the Freshly Pressed. That’s wonderful and well-deserved!

    • November 5, 2014 at 9:52 am

      Oh, as for what hope gets me out of bed? Well, there are certainly many personal ones, but this morning, the thought of the wonderful pumpkin muffin I had waiting for me helped put a little spring in my step. 😉 (I don’t usually indulge in muffins, but it’s pumpkin, so, you know…)

    • November 5, 2014 at 1:04 pm

      Thank you! Between the afterglow of that and some time to watch Alpha House uninterrupted, today is not such a bad day, either. 😀

      As for the thought of pumpkin muffins? Oh, my word! That sounds even better than lemon bars (or cupcakes) right now … mmm …

  4. November 5, 2014 at 9:54 am

    Lved that letter! It deserved to be Freshly Pressed. 🙂

    • November 5, 2014 at 1:06 pm

      Thank you! I am so unspeakably glad that one did it. Writing to my mom instead of about her … made me think I should do it more often, if only (usually) in my own notebooks!

  5. November 5, 2014 at 9:56 am

    Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful news! There’s nothing like watching a baby sleep. On the days when Peeper falls asleep on me before her nap, I revel in the closeness and perfection of the moment.

    To answer your Q about blogging, I blog mostly as a way of recording my daughter’s first months—and now that she’s older, her first years! I’ll be compiling posts into a book at some point to give to her. I also blog as a way of figuring out what I feel.

    • November 5, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Watching babies sleep is lovely. Actually, come to think of it, the same is true of the larger ones. I watched Li’l D sleep for a little while last night. He might protest he’s no longer a baby, but he’ll always be my baby. Always!

      I love the idea of putting the blogs together in a book! I’ve written some posts hoping that Li’l D would read them someday and know what a joy it was to be his mom, but there are a lot of unrelated posts for him to wade through as well. I think I’ve found my answer to the question of making those particular blogs accessible, thank you. 🙂

  6. November 5, 2014 at 9:58 am

    Sounds like you had an amazing day! Yay!

    Why do you blog? Free therapy.

    What hope gets you out of bed every morning? Ha! It isn’t hope, it’s my alarm clock (or my child). The bills gotta be paid.

    Who are you? Who do you want to be? I don’t have the answers to either question right now.

    • November 5, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      Free therapy is right! I started my blog to promote a book, then decided that blogging (not novel writing) is where it’s at. I’m not saying it’ll be like that forever, but at three or so years … there’s some likelihood.

      As for your final answer? I’m looking forward to seeing these answers come to light. Truly.

      • November 5, 2014 at 2:30 pm

        You have a book???

        • November 8, 2014 at 8:55 am

          I do! I wrote The Monster’s Daughter as part of a trilogy over a six-week period while in Japan. (The benefits of being broke and stranded!) I’ve actually written a post about how to address some … issues … with this book now that it’s pretty certain I’ll never publish the latter two books.

          Not sure when I’ll publish that post; if I can make sense of it on my own, perhaps never? I spent a little time being embarrassed about it because I’ve become a much better writer since, but, y’know, that’s life: learning as we go!

          • November 8, 2014 at 11:28 am

            Maybe you could go back and edit them?

  7. November 5, 2014 at 11:51 am

    Wahoo! Congratulations on FP! So deserving!
    And, seriously, how can 7 months have passed already?
    Now, why do I blog? I suppose to make sense of this journey I’m on and to share what I learn while learning from others. The connections I’ve made (like mine with you) have brought me unexpected joy and the a renewed appetite for life.

    • November 5, 2014 at 1:44 pm

      I have no idea where those seven months have gone! I have the feeling I’m going to think of this post again in what feels like a week and discover it’s been five years.

      Ditto on the why-blogging answer. I started with one purpose but found the connections were the best thing about the blogosphere … even more so than the release of finding answers via the writing, which is itself invaluable!

  8. November 5, 2014 at 12:14 pm

    Congratulations! That’s great, and well-deserved. I enjoy reading what you write, finding things to relate to, happy and sad…and things that inspire me and make me think – so thanks! Those are reasons I read other people’s blogs… also TO LAUGH, and to learn about people, places and things I might not normally be exposed to. I’m not always consistent with blogging, or reading blogs (Life necessitates stops and goes, doesn’t it?! Or mine does, anyway!), but I always come back to it. I find it’s a great outlet for self-expression…and creativity, and a way to leave a record of who I am for my children. I think you are doing the same thing for your kids. Keep up the good work! 🙂

  9. November 5, 2014 at 1:09 pm

    Deborah, you have contributed to a high degree on this blog and to get Freshly Pressed is a tribute to the time and consideration you have found to enlighten many others.
    I’m a practical type and what gets me up and going is usually the need to pee.
    After a great nights sleep, I am firing and ready for anything. Usually I’ll tackle management needs early in the morning as my brain is clear and organised.
    Blogging for me is a way to write. Writing is just so much fun and it’s what I have done my whole life.It
    takes many forms and to blogg is to express at a public level.
    My constant ambition in life is to rid myself of jobs and I utilise this as a management technique. Taking on a task and gradually paring it down until only the bones of it remain.
    I try to remain un-complicated and positive, always looking to challenge the negative beliefs that so invade our society.B

  10. November 5, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    Congrats on everything and glad you are enjoying such happiness! XOXO-Kasey

  11. November 5, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    Congratulations, Deb, on another well-deserved FP. All your writing is great, but none so poignant as the pieces you do about your mom.

    I’m so glad you’re getting some time to stop and smell the roses with the boys. The time really does fly by.

  12. November 5, 2014 at 1:51 pm

    Congrats on being Freshly Pressed again, and being able to spend time with your baby. Oh I miss those days with my babies.

    Let’s see, I blog to stay creative, to share things I think are valuable, and to keep my life in perspective. I read blogs because people are so interesting, and it keeps me in touch with what real people are thinking, doing and feeling and where the world is headed.
    I get out of bed with the hope to accomplish my daily goals or task list that I wrote down the night before.
    I am myself, and that’s who I want to be, problems and all.

  13. November 5, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    I loved that letter — isn’t it wonderful that it was FP’d! Yay!

    Why do I blog? I started as a venue for my stories — everybody I know has heard them, ummmm, once or twice. But I stay for the friends I’ve made. And because well, who wants to work anyway.

  14. November 5, 2014 at 4:04 pm

    Congratulations, Deborah! I’m not surprised. It was an exceptionally beautiful and well written tribute to your mother. What a thrilling week it’s been for you!!
    As for my blog, I’m not sure what I’m doing or how I feel about it anymore . . . Can’t seem to justify all the time it takes away from my home life. In fact, I’m supposed to be taking a break from WP, but I had to pop in to congratulate one of my favorite blogging pals!!

  15. November 5, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    Congrats… such a sweet sleepy boy!!

    I blog because I want people to laugh. I tend to be “mentally intense” and humor is like fresh cool water to me!!

    I get up because I have to. Some days it’s really hard… the world is intense. .. the world in my home can be intense too. But i get out of bed for love. I love the Lord and He gives me purpose. .. I love my family who right now… while my kids are young… are my purpose!!

  16. November 5, 2014 at 5:02 pm

    Sounds like a very good day. I have blogged as an expression of creativity. I enjoy writing. I used to blog often, now it is rare. I am in a different “place” now, both literally and figuratively. I am less relaxed in general, thus lacking the creativity and inspiration for writing. I don’t want to write negative things, so I need to be in the right frame of mind. I still read blogs periodically, just as I read books and magazines. Blogs are nice because I feel more of a personal connection and I can leave notes. Hope does not get me out of bed. Necessity gets me out of bed. That is who I am now, but I would like to be someone who has more hope and less necessity. It is a rough patch in life that has gone on for too long.

  17. November 5, 2014 at 6:13 pm

    congrats for the freshly-pressed! have a nice day ahead!:)

  18. November 5, 2014 at 6:59 pm

    Deb, Congrats to you on the FP! It is a beautiful letter, and your writing, esp. about your mom, is always touching and heartfelt. I blog to make people laugh for a moment and forget their worries, and what gets me up each morning is to give to others along with enjoying all life has to offer. I want to grow to be the best I can in those two goals. 🙂

  19. November 5, 2014 at 7:36 pm

    Hi. I just recently found you and am happy that I did. Congrats on being FP. Your letter was beautiful.

  20. November 5, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    My almost 3 year old quite didn’t get the voting thing down, but man was she all about the sticker! Good job on finishing your whole 30!! I’m feeling semi guilty about not finishing mine, but not too bad. Had I known of the events I wouldn’t have started when I did hehe.

    I started blogging as more of a diary when I decided to do my whole 30. Keep track of my meals and how I felt so I could look back and see it all. As I shared the entries on my Facebook, and as strangers would comment I realized they were somewhat motivational for some. So I kept writing. Every day I would seem to find some “life lesson” in the daily challenge. I’ve been tempted to write about other things besides my hate for sugar in all things packaged, but I haven’t gotten the “guts” to do it.

    I love to read blogs where personality and emotions really show about every day life. The personable ones 🙂

  21. November 5, 2014 at 9:58 pm

    Congrats! And it was just the topper on what sounded like an amazing day ❤

  22. November 6, 2014 at 12:33 pm

    Congrats on being Freshly Pressed! 🙂

    To answer your question on blogging…

    Writing helps me organize my thoughts; it allows me to sort intangible ideas into visible boxes, giving my thoughts a clarity that didn’t exist until I harnessed them into the neat, tidy letters on the computer screen. My blog is where I hash out my experiences of being a martial artist, my journey to become a teacher, and just generally connect concepts that most consider disparate.

    It’s completely personal, like a journal. While I do keep in mind that all material could potentially be read, well, I’ve seen my site statistics; most hits I get are from spam-bots. And that’s okay. My blog is still useful to me.

  23. November 6, 2014 at 12:43 pm

    Oh! And I blog to find my own voice.

    One of the reasons that I read your blog is that I love the way you write, the way you can put together sentences like “Other times, the rain is a downpour of a feathers and fairy dust.” I admire that so much that, a couple years back, I actually tried to duplicate the general tone. It didn’t work, because that’s not who I am; my mind doesn’t work that way.

    So instead of trying to imitate another person’s voice, I began focusing on crafting each phrase, each sentence, to accurately reflect what is in my mind.

  24. November 6, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    There is no one not a single person who more deserves to be freshly pressed than you. Yeah you. ❤

  25. November 7, 2014 at 5:44 am

    Why do I like to blog? I like to write about my life and share it with others as you do so poignantly.

  26. November 17, 2014 at 12:05 am

    Reblogged this on Yair Shalev.

  27. January 6, 2015 at 6:25 am

    Huge congrats on FP. That was a great post. Well deserved. Also, apreciating the beauty that is just watching your 7 month old is SO HUGE. Most people, it seems, take it all for granted. Hooray for you, on all accounts.

    I sort of think of blogging as like a volcanic eruption of my spirit. Even if it’s a trickle, a thin flow, not explosive. It releases the pressure of life. Writing induced catharsis. I read other blogs to find people who inspire me.

  1. No trackbacks yet.

Please weigh in--kindly!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: