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My last day

Today I say farewell to one job.

I say farewell to the things that frustrated me and the people who made me laugh.

I say farewell richer in knowledge and friendships than when I began. I smile at the goodness of what I will take with me after today, most especially friendships with one of the two best managers I have ever had and the treasure who inspired this post.

I am smiling wider still at the prospect of all that is to come: a little extra time with my babies, whom I’ve barely gotten to see most my long days away, and steps toward fulfilling my own long term objectives that have very little to do with paychecks. I will be pinching pennies while relishing presence and prospects.

It feels amazing to follow my husband’s lead and, for once, take not the safe route but the right one.

I am not my work. Indeed, I feel poised to discover who exactly I am meant to be.

What uncertainty! What joy!

Hand in hand: much better than either in the garbage can!


  1. October 24, 2014 at 8:35 am

    Woohoo! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:11 am

      Soooo excited! Getting more done than it seems I ought in light of my excitement, so that’s good, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. October 24, 2014 at 8:47 am


    Enjoy those babies!!!!!

    I am looking forward to hearing about your family’s new adventure…

    and “high five” for the gift of a supportive husband!!

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:14 am

      I am going to enjoy the heck out of them!!! One of the teachers asked if I could help with a daytime activity and I was so excited to be able to say yes. ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

      I have more I want to do in the workplace, so my priority will be to find a place where I can learn a ton … and leave the work to be with my babies at the end of the day. I am so thankful for my husband’s support! We are so different in many ways, but it’s easy for me to see the good in those differences. ♥

  3. October 24, 2014 at 9:11 am

    How lucky for you! I’m sure this journey will lead you to the right path, and I look forward to following along the way. ๐Ÿ™‚ XOXO-Kasey

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:16 am

      Thanks, Kasey! In my head, this was going to be a long, thoughtful articulation on work/life balance . . but then I realized that wasn’t right at all. This was it, what I want to remember, like sitting there eating cupcakes on the kitchen floor right after A was promoted.

  4. October 24, 2014 at 9:27 am

    What a wonderful post to find in my inbox! I remember when I decided to stop working and focus on raising my kids. I had just benn informed that I was going to be offered anadministrative management of a special markets division of a bank branch and was ecstatic that they chose me. However, I was 9 months pregnant and just about to have my second child. While thrilled at the validation of the work I had been doing, I knew that my real work would be with raising my children. I made a lot of people unhappy/angry when I chose to focus my work on raising my children… but never once have I regretted my decision to be more available to my kids. To help them become the young adults they are now. Even now, as they’re in their high school years and are pretty self sufficient, it still is important to me to be available to them.

    I am excited for you as you explore this new journey you are taking!

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:20 am

      Thrilled by the validation–how those words resonate with me! I recently had to assess whether I wanted external or internal validation. Answering that question honestly led me to be able to hear–really hear–Anthony’s take on things. I will be back in the workplace soon(ish), but guided by my goals and objectives. So excited for all of it, and glad for this life that allows me this flexibility. More on that on mine and my mom’s birthday next week! Big, big hugs.

  5. October 24, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Go Deb!!

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:21 am

      Thanks!! I feel like there are beams of light radiating from me right now. ๐Ÿ˜€

      • October 24, 2014 at 11:35 am

        I can see the light from here! I’m so happy for you.

        Also so jealous, frankly. I want to find a Medici to sponsor my artistic endeavors as in days of yore. Except I’d be scribbling funny little blog posts instead of painting gorgeous, religious art. Do you know any Medicis?

  6. October 24, 2014 at 9:54 am

    Good luck!!

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:24 am

      Thanks! It feels so freeing to be excited instead of unnerved by change for once. ๐Ÿ˜€

  7. October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Cheers to new adventures! Uncertainty is what makes life more fulfilling. More exciting. Congratulations my friend.

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:25 am

      So true! I can’t believe how I only understood that the last few days. Playing it safe means … oh, playing on a leash, almost! There is only so far you can go. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • October 24, 2014 at 11:27 am

        Excellent word picture! No one should be on a leash. Well, except dogs, of course.

  8. October 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

    I was in a similar position (twenty odd years ago) and I can say from experience that you will never regret this decision. You will experience moments of doubt…and FEAR (and so will your spouse!) but they pass as you figure out how to make it work. You will both be grateful for that time spent with your kids. So happy for you! It will be AWESOME. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:27 am

      Reading this fills me with even more joy! I am so looking forward to finding our new balance, including–somehow!–even those rocky moments. So much more learning in ’em!

  9. October 24, 2014 at 10:58 am

    Good for you and good luck to you with everything! I hope it all works out to the absolute best that it can ๐Ÿ˜€

  10. October 24, 2014 at 11:30 am

    Congratulations! Sending you support, encouragement and high fives!

    • October 24, 2014 at 11:33 am

      Thank you! I actually meant to email you earlier, but didn’t quite make it. Now … a little more time, hurrah!

  11. October 24, 2014 at 11:36 am

    Awwwww…. =) The timing of this post is interesting. I figure I’ll get around to writing my own work/home post in a couple weeks.

    • October 25, 2014 at 5:30 am

      I’ll be looking forward to it … and eating up any/every other blog you might post between now and then!

  12. October 24, 2014 at 12:43 pm

    Congratulations and welcome to this new chapter in your life! ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. October 24, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    So, who are you meant to be? I don’t know if anyone asked you yet and I’m just kinda curious when folk go on this sorta discovery. Enjoy the younguns and all.

    • October 25, 2014 at 5:35 am

      That’s what i am poised to discover. ๐Ÿ™‚ I have the broad strokes; now, with a little bit of time to consider instead of just trying to get by moment to moment with virtually no downtime, I will be able to start painting the finer strokes. So exciting, that! Thank you for reading and asking.

  14. October 24, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Good Luck Deb.

  15. October 24, 2014 at 2:01 pm

    Well done. We forget that courage isn’t required to be a hurculean effort; sometimes it is as easy as remembering! Peace!

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:43 pm

      So well put! It’s so easy to think that the strength is in the struggle when, indeed, strength–and courage–can be expressed in so many different ways.

  16. October 24, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    Good for you. And good for your husband!

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:44 pm

      I had a moment of panic when I awakened Wednesday morning back home. What did I do? What am I going to do? And then, then I spent extra time with my boys. I savored getting to spend time down on the floor with John. And, oh! I felt how right my decision was! I feel very fortunate to be able to take this bit of time. ♥

  17. October 24, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    Deborah, I have been thinking of you a lot today and sending you positive vibes (including in dance class :)) after you left your comment about it being your last day, and more important, about your beginning your newest chapter. So happy for you and your family that you will be embarking on a path that more closely reflects your dreams and your love. Rock on, my friend! xo

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:46 pm

      Thank you! I think I’ll forever recall my sense of connection with your perfectly (for me) timed words. I relish the chance to take these meandering roads, bumps and all. ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. October 24, 2014 at 3:07 pm

    “You are not your khaki pants” -Fight Club

  19. October 24, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    Congrats! I remember you saying something about writing a post about your career direction. I like this angle. I hope it works well for you, and that you find a career path that works for you and your family! Personally, I am working to reframe how I view work in a way that preserves tranquility (….been reading books on Stoicism lately and found I like their term “tranquility” better than “peace of mind” haha.) So, less about the specific work and more about the mindset you approach it with. We will see how that works!

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:48 pm

      I definitely think there’s something to examining and altering one’s work mindset, but I also think it’s important to assess whether a specific position is capable of fulfilling certain career objectives or aspirations. If it’s not, there’s short term benefit in finding strategies for peace, but limited long term benefit in remaining. All of which consideration inevitably leads me to wonder where I’ve put my copy of Just One Thing! :p

      • November 1, 2014 at 12:08 pm

        Definitely true about the positions having limited long term benefits. I think that way about my current position. My career aspirations have really gone out the window, and I can honestly say I have no idea what I really want to do. Sure, there are some avenues I’m considering, but there’s no concrete plan, if there ever was one to begin with. So, I’ve had to develop the mindset I was talking about more for my own sanity than anything else, because having borderline panic attacks triweekly and biweekly existential crises was getting really old, haha .

  20. October 25, 2014 at 4:38 am

    Best of luck! Sounds like an adventure. Keep us posted ๐Ÿ™‚

  21. October 25, 2014 at 5:49 am

    I am so glad, truly. I know this might be a scary and uncertain time even while it is also joyous. I hope you take time every single morning to remind yourself, ‘this is for me, this is for myself and I will embrace all that I gain from it’.

    Believe in yourself. I love that you are doing this, your sons will gain, you will gain, your husband will gain and your family will grow stronger.

    Much love and hugs.

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:53 pm

      You know what helped me weather the scariness when I woke up Wednesday morning and realized I wouldn’t be driving to a paying job? Thinking of your words and recognizing their truth. I was experiencing anticipated emotions, the acknowledgment of which allowed me to–for that moment–mosey right into the joy and wonder. I am so glad for your wisdom, and you’d better bet I’m reminding myself just as you’ve counseled. I love you. ♥

      • November 1, 2014 at 4:36 am

        Enjoy it my friend, hug everyone, including yourself.

  22. cardamone5
    October 25, 2014 at 6:18 am

    Congrats, Deb. You will do great at whatever you choose. I applaud your courage and love of your family.


    • October 31, 2014 at 7:54 pm

      Thank you so much! I have another “thank you” to say regarding another comment, but it’ll probably take me another day or two to get to. I have so much I want to say there, and not quite enough focus tonight! ๐Ÿ™‚

  23. October 25, 2014 at 6:29 am

    โค resonating with you from across the Atlantic Ocean, having recently taken the same leap and also not knowing what exactly comes next…scary and thrilling and exciting and yes…

  24. October 25, 2014 at 7:29 am

    Enjoy! It can be scary. My wife and I are coming upon a very critical time in our life. We wonder once she graduates law school if it will be time to move onto another part of our life or to stay the safe route by keeping ourselves in the secure life that we have already made for ourselves.

    Good Luck!

    • October 31, 2014 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you! Also, I look forward to reading whatever parts of the journey you document on your blog. Also also, reading the words “law school” makes me marvel at the fact it’s been a decade since I graduated from my own law school experience. Where does the time go?!

  25. October 25, 2014 at 10:28 pm

    How exciting!! I left work in February to stay home with my little one and it’s been the best. I feel guilty for not bringing home any “bacon” and I think the time for me to go back to work is coming soon so I’m trying to soak it all in. I’m excited for anyone that gets the chance to do this!!

    • October 31, 2014 at 8:00 pm

      It was mine and my mom’s birthday yesterday. In the letter I wrote her (via blog, of course), I’d meant to mention how amazing it is to be able to do this … I know she’d be thrilled, if surprised to start. The letter took me a different direction, but honestly, the fact I was able to just sit on the floor and read my son’s birthday present book to him without rushing … man, did I feel my mom in it. It was lovely. It is lovely! Hurrah for this opportunity for both of us!

  26. October 25, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    Good luck, I have also just changed jobs and moved house, it was hard but now I’m settled it was the right thing, enjoy, I have found it is not about the money I’m on less than half my last wage but happier! X

    • October 31, 2014 at 8:01 pm

      These are some very encouraging words to read. I’ve had a few interviews this week and, happily, a little time to talk with my sister about what is and is not important to me in my next-up job. Money is no longer the biggest consideration for me, thanks to my husband’s work changes; it’s more like third or fourth. That is a freeing circumstance for which I am so thankful.

  27. October 30, 2014 at 5:56 am

    “Not being my work” is a lesson I need to take . . . I’m proud of you for making the right decision for you — even if it adds a little uncertainty to the future, it certainly sounds like you’re walking down a happy path.

    • October 31, 2014 at 8:02 pm

      Thank you! It is a happy path. One of the recruiters I called to update said, “Well, it sounds like you’re happy … ?” I could not have been more emphatically enthusiastic in my agreement!

  28. November 4, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    Bravo! As Sarah Ban Breathnach says, it’s so important to find one’s authentic self, I recently rediscovered who I am, and I am happier than I’ve been in a long time. I’m still working for a living. But I’m spending my evenings writing instead of watching television or surfing the internet. Happy, happy, happy!

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