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My new favorite show

“We’ve all gotta start somewhere,” a bartender told my husband on Friday evening.

My husband had just named the show he’s assistant directing. It took him a moment to realize the bartender didn’t think working on a kids TV show–even an Emmy nominated one–was real directing work.

I’ve gotten the same comment from a couple of friends, who’ve said things like, “He went from The Big Bang Theory to that? Ouch!” I’ve replied that he’s getting great experience and that’s what’s important, but my answers haven’t felt firm enough. There was something missing from them, some conviction I couldn’t yet offer, not because I didn’t feel it but because I didn’t yet know how to articulate it. Today I’ll try.

The unicorn declined to be photographed

The unicorn declined to be photographed

My husband’s working. The moment he started this gig, he had his next gig locked. That’s a few dozen episodes lined up neatly from before his very first moment assistant directing. In Hollywood, that can be a little like riding a unicorn. My husband is riding a unicorn, y’all!

More than that, my husband is learning. There was only so much he could pick up pushing papers around an office. Moving from the office to the set was what nudged him into finally finding his groove. He wasn’t quite where he wanted to be as a set Production Assistant, but he was getting closer. Assistant directing has taken him so much closer.

I get it. It’s learning that’s most important to me on the job. No matter how much I made at the fictional Ginormous Prestigious Firm (“GPF”), I’d get pretty darn bored doing the same thing day in and day out for years, hoping without any clear promotion path that I’d be the one of many to maybe be promoted if a spot ever opened. Given the choice between that stagnant job at GPF and working at Moderately Sized Off Brand Company (“MSOBC”) down the street, I’d want to know what MSOBC could offer me.

If they’d challenge me, teach me, and push me to learn so much more than I ever could at GPF, I’d jump ship in a heartbeat. I personally want to solve, grow and thrive, whether in or outside the workplace. I want to find my way into environments enabling that growth. The internal satisfaction from learning the skills I’ll need to take over GPF with my own bare hands in a decade? The growth? These things are so much more important to me than whether people oooh and aaah when I say, “I work at GPF!” while quietly adding to myself, “Where I’ll probably be doing exactly the same thing for the next nine years.”

My husband loved his own GPF, but not for its growth opportunities. It took moving to his MSOBC for him to really find his footing. And let’s be clear: he’s found it. I knew he had even before seeing it with my own eyes, but it was beautiful to see for myself.

My husband is exactly where he needs to be to fulfill his dreams. Those dreams have nothing to do with the name or recognition of his show and everything to do with being challenged, growing and learning what he needs to know to someday sit in his very first Director seat emblazoned with his name.

No matter where he is when he does finally sit there, nor which show he’s working on, I am proud of him. I am proud to see him growing and grateful, so grateful, for his chance to work on this show that none of my friends watch.

It’s my new favorite show.

  1. October 19, 2014 at 4:45 pm

    I wasn’t sure if I was going to open a bottle of wine tonight. But after learning that your husband is inching closer to his dreams, I’m gonna lift up a glass to RIDING UNICORNS! And perseverance!!

    • October 19, 2014 at 7:18 pm

      Three cheers for that! This week he finishes his guild qualifying days, so it’s a perfect time for cheers. ♥

  2. October 19, 2014 at 6:20 pm

    Sounds perfect to me: learning more everyday and moving forward towards his goal. How great is that? I also feel sorry for those who give a knee-jerk response to the glitz of things–shows lack of awareness and very little creativity. We are all cheering him on!

    • October 19, 2014 at 7:23 pm

      It reminds me of people who used to ask, “Why did you go to law school if you don’t practice law?” I used to go into longwinded answers trying to illuminate my perspective, usually to little result. I stopped trying to explain when I saw there was another group of folks who immediately envisioned a dozen reasons. I haven’t quite caught up here yet, obviously, but I think maybe this post will be when I start leaving my answers to that statement at, “Not really.” Thank you for your support! ♥

  3. October 19, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    Mine too! Dang, sometimes people should zip it and dance in the rain for the person who is riding the unicorn they couldn’t catch.

    • October 21, 2014 at 7:55 am

      Heeeey! I replied to this comment, but it looks like my reply was eaten. *shakes fist at WP* I don’t think they meant anything by it, any of these times; it was just their immediate gut reaction. I wish I could have more quickly gathered my thoughts in those moments!

  4. October 20, 2014 at 6:25 am

    No amount of money can make up for happiness when you go to work, I don’t care what anyone says! I love being challenged and growing and that is what makes me a better person. I’m so very happy for you and your hubby!

  5. October 20, 2014 at 8:49 am

    You know, well-done kids’ TV is really underappreciated among all the crap kids’ TV. It’s one thing to market to adults but another thing entirely to market to a little person at a completely different developmental level from yourself, and to simultaneously think about what messages you want the kids to absorb and how to communicate them effectively.

    And of course it’s always important to continue to learn and grow in your career. Good for your husband and good for you!

  6. October 20, 2014 at 9:46 am

    It amazes me that people can’t see this as a promotion–concerned more with the where of the work than the substance. Then again, people do the same with law offices and churches, so I shouldn’t be.

  7. October 20, 2014 at 11:09 am

    Incredible! And what an even better wife to support him in his dreams. My wife is a former teacher and I couldn’t help but give her the chance to continue her learning by going back to school!

  8. October 21, 2014 at 7:14 am

    Hey, at least he has a career goal in mind. That’s more than most people can say. I wonder if that is not part of it. They see someone making something of themselves, and don’t get it or, worse, want to “level the playing field” as it were. Bulldoze the neighborhood to make their house look better by comparison, as it were. Kudos to him for cultivating a career that works for him! Most just seem to fall into a path of some sort, whether it works or not. He is working with intentionality, and I should think that would lead to better outcomes than just doing whatever.

    • October 21, 2014 at 7:53 am

      My next planned post is actually going to be about my own career path. I’ve been drafting little pieces of it in my mind as I drive, but haven’t been able to pinpoint in a word or two its core. Your comment helped me do that. It’s about intentionality. Thank you for your insights. Yes!

      • October 21, 2014 at 9:18 am

        Glad to help! I thought of the word because I know it is what I lack in my own career path. I’m a dabbler, what can I say? Trying to figure out a focus for it. Right now mostly focusing on getting my head on straight. Post graduation life has been difficult. Mostly, though, that difficulty has been self inflicted. Woops.

  9. October 23, 2014 at 6:30 am

    It’s always disheartening when people respond in negatives to our positives. But, I’m glad you’re such a great encourager and support. I have to remind myself – working for a very small project that gives me more life and meaning than I could have imagined – that we get to call it OUR journey for a reason. It doesn’t have to make sense to the world if it makes sense to our heart.

  10. October 26, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    Good for him. And I agree with the comment about quality kids’ TV shows being under-appreciated—there are some really bad kid shows! We should all care more about that.

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