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A mirror worth looking through

My eyes are swollen. Deep purple crescent moons prop them up.

So bruised do they look, one woman asks if I am safe at home. Others have hinted concern.

But I am safe at home, and it is more than my eyes. My tongue is so thick I stumble over words I’ve spoken confidently since I was two.

“Ugh. I hate how I look,” I whisper to my reflection in the mirror.

“What?” pipes up my five-year-old. “Why?” He drops his toys and joins me next to the mirror.

“Well,” I say as I crouch down to talk to him, “my eyes and mouth are funny right now. See how my smile is lopsided?”

He peers at my mouth, and then examines the rest of my face. He shares his verdict: “You look good to me!”

I pull him close for a forehead kiss. “Thank you,” I murmur as he runs back to his toys.

The swelling subsides day by day. Soon I will look in the mirror and see the face I am used to.

Never again will I look in the mirror without hearing my son’s words and remembering to try seeing myself through his eyes.

Strangers may recoil. I may dismay. But to my son, this little boy so huge in my heart, I will always be Mom. Always beautiful.

That’s a mirror worth looking through.


  1. Jen
    October 13, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    Kids have a way of saying things that burn right into your heart! Why the bruises?

    • October 13, 2014 at 6:37 pm

      They just look like bruises, and were–in one good turn–not obtained violently. Fingers are crossed for their disappearance by end of week …

  2. October 13, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    Deb, did you have an allergic reaction to something?? Love the post, but need to know what’s wrong and how you are?? XO-Kasey

    • October 13, 2014 at 4:41 pm

      I don’t want to get into that, but will say it’s getting better. Slowly. Thank you for your loving concern. ♥

  3. October 13, 2014 at 4:47 pm

    Beautiful! Love the pure innocence of our little ones and I’m sure you were beautiful even with purple crescents under your eyes! Hugs!!! Hope it gets better soon!

    • October 13, 2014 at 6:42 pm

      Thank you! It still feels super prominent, but it’s probably only half as terrible as a week ago. Thankfully. So thankful, too, for my vocal little dude.

  4. October 13, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    I could use a mirror like that! Kids never see the imperfections–only the beauty. Hang on to your son’s words, Deborah. They’re full of wisdom. Wishing you a speedy recovery!!

    • October 13, 2014 at 6:43 pm

      Sometimes my introvert self gets a little talked out in a household of talkers, but moments like this (most moments, actually!) I am so grateful for my boys’ fondness for words. And the words hey choose. ♥

  5. October 13, 2014 at 5:57 pm

    Beautiful sentimental post!

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  7. October 13, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    So sweet!!!

    Oh those boys… aren’t they wonderful!!!

  8. October 13, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    Sons especially know exactly what to say. You are beautiful even if you have pox marks covering you from the soles of your feet to the end of your nose. You are Mom, how could you be anything but perfectly lovely. Really, what a wonderful mirror.

    Be well, smile and be well.


  9. October 13, 2014 at 9:33 pm

    I wish you a speedy recovery from whatever it was.

  10. October 14, 2014 at 6:52 am

    Awwwwwwww….kids are the best!

  11. October 15, 2014 at 6:04 am

    Moms are always beautiful, no matter what the circumstances are! Hope you recover quickly. 🙂

  12. October 17, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Awe, kids can be so sweet. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

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