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A footstep from his (directing) dreams

The three of us sat cross-legged on the kitchen floor, eating cupcakes through enormous smiles. My older son, Li’l D, simply celebrated a chance to eat cupcakes, but his dad and I were celebrating something else. Something too enormous and primal to celebrate sitting all proper-like at a table.

My husband had gotten The Call after several years of working as a television production assistant.

A couple weeks earlier, he’d turned down an offer to return to a show he’d worked before. He’d already accepted another 22-episode gig elsewhere. 22 episodes of assured work is about as secure as it gets in Hollywood, so the offerors understood. They wished him well and moved along … or so it seemed.

Last Tuesday they called and asked how he’d feel about joining the show as its 2nd 2nd Assistant Director. In other words, they were asking him how he felt about bypassing another 250 or so working days as a stage production assistant. Directing their background actors, or “extras,” for them. Being sponsored for the required membership to the Directors Guild of America. They’d already put in all the calls and done all the legwork to make it happen … if he was interested.

Barely a month ago, he’d marked his 40th birthday by saying it was time for him to seriously consider walking away from show biz. He wanted to be doing more–providing more–for his family.

I’d told him I thought it would be a mistake. Even from my job another county over, I could feel the winds of change stirring.

I had no idea they’d be blowing such welcome change his way so soon. 

That one month from considering calling it, he’d make the biggest move of his career so far.

That after five years of working as an office production assistant for a popular sitcom and moving nowhere, and then another two years working as a stage production assistant and seeming to be getting somewhere, he’d have a whole bunch of folks like his work so much they’d prefer to sponsor and train him over bringing on someone experienced.

I want to remember the thrill of this transition until there’s nothing left for me remember. When he’s gone on to assistant directing and directing, I want to remember still what it felt like to watch him be poised but a single footstep away from walking into his dreams. When his 2nd 2nd Assistant Director days are so long behind him they’ve gotten a little fuzzy, I want to remember the thrill of moving from wondering if to knowing when.

I want to remember sitting cross-legged on the kitchen floor with my family, smiling at the sweetness of cupcakes, the closeness of my family, the breeze blowing through wide-open windows … and at the winds of change blowing warm and wonderful around us all.

  1. August 7, 2014 at 5:20 am

    That is so great! Congrats to the hubs!

    • August 10, 2014 at 9:00 pm

      Thanks! I’ve nudged him to come here and say so, too, but he hasn’t managed to find the time yet. (Then again, look how long it takes me to reply to comments on my own blog … )

  2. August 7, 2014 at 5:30 am

    How awesome is that! Congrats to him!

    • August 10, 2014 at 9:00 pm

      Thanks! I am passing these warm wishes along, though I know he’s sneaking peeks at them himself. 🙂

  3. nicciattfield
    August 7, 2014 at 6:25 am

    Congratulations to all of you. We can be inspired by the courage it takes to keep your dream alive, and the courage it takes to support a partner, even when you’d feel it would be easier not to.

    • August 10, 2014 at 9:04 pm

      I wish I could say my support had been without falter, but … I yearn for consistency after a childhood almost totally lacking it. Not knowing when he’ll have to report to work, when he’ll be home, or if he’ll have work has been challenging. But I’ve been inspired, too. Where I feel mostly intellectual thrills at my work, he goes to work and feels the thrill of it all. I’m inspired by that, even if I’ve had to grudgingly embrace the fact consistency isn’t the only anchor in this life. ♥

  4. Jennay
    August 7, 2014 at 6:41 am

    This gave me chills and smiles. Great things are a comin’ for y’all!

  5. August 7, 2014 at 7:28 am

    I always told my kids not to give up and you just showed me why. Here is to a wonderful career knowing that we will be watching something your guy directs some day. Blessings to you and your family. I am so extremely happy for you.

  6. August 7, 2014 at 8:06 am

    I’m just so happy for him! But I love how you celebrate! 🙂 I think that was a perfect time for a cupcake!

  7. August 7, 2014 at 9:28 am

    HUGE congratulations! And thank you for the reminder that it’s okay, and in fact right and important, to hold tight to the goals you believe in.

  8. August 7, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    How truly wonderful. Dreams realised and happiness shared.

  9. August 7, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    What a fun way to celebrate! 🙂

  10. August 8, 2014 at 3:59 am

    I think I love your enthusiasm and memory building better than anything I have read in weeks. I have been somewhat blue lately and now I am all pink and giddy 🙂

    I am so pleased for all you all. This is wonderful for hubs, dream big.

  11. August 8, 2014 at 6:55 am

    Oh, oh, oh!! I’m so excited for y’all!! I know a couple of 2nd-2nds here in Hollywood South, and that’s a huge step! Keep on savoring! Big things are coming!

  12. August 8, 2014 at 11:01 am

    So happy for him and your family!! Congrats.

  13. August 17, 2014 at 5:29 am

    Wow, Deb. You let him know I’m so very happy for him. Much love to your whole family.

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  15. Liz Drees
    September 7, 2014 at 6:40 am

    Way to go, Anthony!

  16. November 16, 2014 at 7:00 am

    Yahoo! 🙂

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