Looking back on 2013. Mostly with glasses.
I was doing something a second ago. I’m sure of it. But what? Huh.
Betcha I was looking for my glasses. I’m always looking for–
Oh, wait. They’re on my face for once! I should tell my husband. He’d be so proud. Or would he just say “Maybe you should keep them there”? Probably that. Darn.
I still feel like I’m missing something. Oh, I got it, I got it! I was writing a blog! Or I meant to, before I got distracted.
It’s the end of another year. That means it’s time for me to make note of things that happened this year, as I’ve done at the end of each year for the last decade, so that 2013 isn’t lost to my retention-challenged memory as “another year that stuff happened.”
It’s good to have a cheat sheet.
Some years, it takes me hours to capture the highlights. Other years, like 2013, it takes a few seconds:
- I changed jobs. My commute got a lot longer.
- I moved. Twice.
- I started baking child numero dos, but not, y’know, in an actual oven.
- I got married.
I’m sure I’m forgetting something, but these were the things that (I think) defined 2013 for me.
I wrote some, too. It doesn’t take much of a memory to recall that! I have books to eventually finish writing, others to start writing and others still to edit, but this was a year to focus on settling in to other grooves. Most of what I wrote ended up being for my blog.
Much as I protest the designation “mommy blogger,” my most popular posts were overwhelmingly those dealing with parenting:
- Who he is meant to be — My son started preschool first thing this year. He took to it like a fish to water, while I flopped around on land gasping for a diving board. Writing this post helped me join my son in the water.
- “How are you raising him?!” — Shortly after I read The Gift of Fear and Protecting the Gift, Gavin de Becker’s life-changing books about the power of fear, a neighbor gave me a scary but important chance to use what I’d just learned. His accusatory question gave me a chance to reflect on what I am teaching my son, and feel empowered in and by those choices.
- What report cards can’t report (Freshly Pressed) — The year began with me handing my son over to new teachers’ care. In the year since, I’ve learned more about myself and my son, making it easier to sort out what is important and what is less so in his journey to becoming who he is meant to be.
- Portrait of a Pedophile — Experience has taught me there’s a huge difference between real-life villains and what we expect them to look like. I painted a portrait of one seemingly gentle perpetrator from my childhood in hopes other parents–and their children–would benefit from my experiences.
- Breastfeeding, judgment, and–finally–joyous mothering — Halfway through my second pregnancy, I paused to reflect on what I’ll be doing much, much differently the second time around. Hint: It involves a lot less agonizing over others’ opinions than I did the first time around!
It’s fun to wonder what my 2014 retrospective might look like. Only one thing is certain: I’ll lose my glasses countless times between now and then!
What did you do well in 2013? What do you hope to do better in 2014?
What was your most popular post of 2013? Your favorite? Which one best summed up your year? If you want to answer these questions in a post, either link this post or email the link and, if it’s appropriate, I’ll update this post to include it!