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Mommy, can you forgive me?

“Mommy, can you forgive me?” my son asked as we drove home last night.

“For what, sweetheart?”

“For being on red.” He hadn’t listened well at preschool.

I told him that didn’t require forgiving. We all have days where it’s a little harder for us to listen, I said, though we should always try.

Tonight, he asked if he could have pizza. “Not tonight,” I told him.

“Why not? Is it a privilege?”

“That’s right. It’s–”

“I didn’t lost any privileges today!” he exclaimed, already forgetting about pizza. “Wahoo!”

I thought about wide angle parenting. “You sure didn’t,” I told him, smiling. An afternoon on red is but a blip in a lifetime of opportunities to be on green. If occasionally hyperactive, my son is happy, loving, and compassionate. At the age of four, he already understands the difference between “right” and “privilege” in a way some adults still do not.

Can I forgive him? There’s no need today. If tomorrow calls for genuine forgiveness, though, I hope I will remember the sweetness of his forgiveness often and freely given, as well as the quiet, magical moments we shared today.

  1. November 20, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    I love the message you give your son. I love that no matter what happens today, tomorrow is always a new day.

    • November 21, 2013 at 5:43 am

      In a way, I’m glad I lost sight of what I really hope for him; remembering what that felt like makes it easier to get back to where I really want to be! 🙂

  2. November 21, 2013 at 1:09 am

    Hah, my first thought when he started talking about privileges was “why can’t everybody learn about that when they’re tiny?” 😀 You guys are too adorable to be real. I’m not sure I believe in your existence anymore. 😀

    • November 21, 2013 at 5:44 am

      Oh, he will learn about those ones, too! We’ve touched on them here and there, but it will probably be a little while until that starts capturing his interest the way these ones do!

  3. November 21, 2013 at 4:08 am

    I saw a previous post on this and sadly shook my head. How strange we teach children early not to question, not to ask, not to express themselves.

    I am as always so happy to watch you parent, you leave me in awe.

    • November 21, 2013 at 5:50 am

      Right?! I want my son to ask, to wonder, to explore. I don’t want him to accept others’ answers in lieu of his own! I tell him this will make him challenging to some (and sometimes even to me!), but that that’s no reason to stop inquiring. It is exciting to see him ask and express himself so well! I love to imagine how he’ll soon help guide the impending littlest one. ♥

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