Just Married

I shuddered at the thought of marriage. My honey embraced it.

When I agreed to marry him, I shuddered at the thought of a proper wedding. Nevertheless, since he’d dreamed of his wedding for years, it seemed unfair to accord my newly developed desire to elope the same weight as his desire for a more traditional wedding.

Setting out to look for dresses, I shuddered at the prospect of anything too girly. Naturally enough in light of the progression of things, I ended up with frill. And a veil.

Photo by Andrea C

Photo by Andrea C

The wedding was perfect, no thanks to yours truly, the unplanner.

It was the people that made it. If we’d eloped, I’d never have known the goodness of celebrating commitment surrounded by a lifetime of many loves. I’d never have choked at the sight of my godmother driving up to join me and my bridesmaids at the wedding site, nor felt the sweet weightlessness of walking arm in arm with her toward a new life, in sunshine that felt like my mom showering her love upon us.

"There was remarkably little crying up until I saw my godmom. When she drove past, I didn't see her facial features clearly, but I knew it was her by the look of love on her face. Most of my crying that day had to do with her, in a really, really sweet way. She was there when I was born, through all the life events since, and the love emanates from her in a way I think you can see by looking at this picture. I could feel her and my mom in her, and having her there . . . it was little me and adult me all at once, all wrapped up in endless love."

“She was there when I was born, through all the life events since, and the love emanates from her in a way I think you can see by looking at this picture.” Photo by Andrea C

Getting married felt like releasing a bike’s brakes near the top of a hill after trundling along at a crawl. It’s scary to let go, but liberating at the same time: I am bigger than my fear! Take thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat! YEAH!

Whether we eloped or married traditional style, I’d accepted the prospect of releasing the brakes. The difference was that this way, friends and family started that race down the hill with me, simultaneously shouting words of encouragement and loudly celebrating my discovering a new kind of freedom.

My honey and I cried. We were wed. We kissed.

Just married smooches

Just married smooches. Photo by Dale Porter

After the ceremony was over, the reception had concluded and all our friends had departed, I fell asleep next to my husband.

Five days later, I am thankful my husband gently coaxed me places I didn’t think I wanted to go.

These places? They’re warm, and cozy, and full of love.

The opening of my vows: Glad to finally be getting it

The opening of my vows. So glad I finally got it.

Want to see a little more, including some dashes of silliness? And aerial shots of the wedding? Check out this short wedding video by rockin’ photographer Dale Porter of KillerImage.com!

  1. October 9, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    Congratulations. The happiness and love that was so so evident has filled my eyes with sentimental tears.

    • November 2, 2013 at 11:23 am

      Thank you! I don’t know how I missed saying this to you earlier, but it’s still felt now.

  2. October 9, 2013 at 9:24 pm

    Congratulations! So happy for you and your growing family!

  3. October 9, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    I’m so happy for you and your family. I love the vows you wrote. It’s kinda hitting home to me. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • October 9, 2013 at 9:35 pm

      Thank you! I’m always saying “better late than never,” and this is definitely a case where that rule applies. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. stacym
    October 9, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Congratulations! PS you do frill really well!

  5. Donnell Jeansonne
    October 9, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Congratulations! So happy for you guys. Best wishes, happiness, and love to you and your family!

    • October 9, 2013 at 9:40 pm

      Thanks and much love, Donnell! ♥ Also, mark my words, there are zombie runs in store!

      • Donnell Jeansonne
        January 20, 2014 at 9:07 am

        ๐Ÿ˜€ I am looking forward to this year’s. Although I’m sad they won’t be doing Black Ops here. That’s a night time run with bonfires and zombies with lasers. So much win!

  6. October 9, 2013 at 10:36 pm

    She didn’t mention it, but their first dance was to Skullcrusher Mountain! Deb & A *killed* that wedding! It was awesome. So so so happy right now. โค

    • October 13, 2013 at 4:48 pm

      I am still that happy a week later, and glad for the good examples in my life that set the stage for it. ♥

      Still SO GLAD we chose that as our first song! Love, love, love. ๐Ÿ˜€

  7. October 9, 2013 at 10:44 pm

    What a great day! Congratulations. I loved the video.

    • October 13, 2013 at 4:50 pm

      Thanks, Patti! I didn’t realize the quadcopter was taking video footage; I thought the photographer had just brought it for a TMZ gag photo he did. This meant I was thrilled when I saw he’d posted a video. So rad!

  8. October 10, 2013 at 12:33 am

    So bittersweet! Thanks for sharing your pictures, they are wonderful! So beautifully done, Congratulations and wishing you many years of happiness!

    • October 13, 2013 at 4:52 pm

      Thank you! The first nine days have been delightful, colds and all. I’m looking forward to seeing how the next nine years fold out, and then all the years after that. ♥

  9. October 10, 2013 at 2:17 am

    Congratulations!! You looked gorgeous. Loved the video. I wish you both nothing but peace and love in the coming years.

    • October 13, 2013 at 4:56 pm

      Many, many thanks! A couple of girlfriends back home put together an event where folks get to wear their marriage outfits once a year, so I’m glad I’ll have a chance to bust that out once in a while. Li’l D told me I was the prettiest princess ever and, indeed, I kinda felt like one that day. All glowy in the days since, too. Funny how that happens even after five years with a person! ♥

  10. October 10, 2013 at 4:21 am

    What amazing aerial views! Congratulations. So very happy for all of you.

    • October 13, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      Thanks, Georgette! It was a magical day all around. I’ve gotta send you a couple of images that just melted my heart but didn’t really belong here.

  11. October 10, 2013 at 5:06 am

    Beautiful. Wonderful. Congratulations. May you have a long lifetime me to share happily.

    • October 13, 2013 at 5:04 pm

      Thank you! We are off to a great start, so that I wish I could show me of two weeks ago (and two months ago, and two years ago) how needless was all the fear. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. October 10, 2013 at 5:12 am

    So happy for you both! To all 3 of you actually. :). I am certain that a Lifetime of happiness and contentment await you!!

    • November 2, 2013 at 11:25 am

      Thank you! You could even say four, although I’m sure the fourth (in progress) didn’t feel too super about my wedding dress. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  13. October 10, 2013 at 5:28 am

    Lovely, Deb… simply lovely! Congratulations to you both, with many years of happiness and understanding ahead. No doubt that your mother was shining/smiling down upon you both; I believe that they never leave us, as they are ingrained in our heart. LOVE the dress!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • November 2, 2013 at 11:26 am

      Thank you, Carol! Four weeks in, and I’m wondering why I was so nervous about what it would be like. The answer is “almost exactly like before, but with the added bonus of being all in.” I wouldn’t have thought of that as a bonus not too long past, but now I see it most distinctly is. ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. October 10, 2013 at 7:04 am

    Congratulations! โค

    • November 2, 2013 at 11:27 am

      Belatedly, thank you! I love seeing your name and icon here when it pops up these days. ♥

  15. October 10, 2013 at 7:10 am

    I’m in love with your love. It’s infectious. I’m so happy you took the plunge and crossed that line in your heart. Battling fear is so rewarding.

  16. October 10, 2013 at 7:27 am

    Congratulations to you both! It looks like it was a beautiful day and celebration of love โค

  17. October 10, 2013 at 7:48 am

    You both looked fabulous! I agree with your husband, you should do ‘girly’ more often, you do it really well. You were all bright and shiny, simply sublime. Congratulations to conquering your fear…it was a wonderful unplanned wedding day, clearly perfect for the two of you.

    My heart dances on moonbeams โค

  18. October 10, 2013 at 8:33 am

    Congratulations! What a fun and lovely video, I’m so glad you didn’t elope because you would have missed the sharing in joy of all those lovely people.

  19. October 10, 2013 at 9:23 am

    Wow, so awesome, Deb! I’m so happy for you!!!!! So happy for the fairytale that does come true for certain people in this life. You are deserving, so deserving, of everything wonderful that comes your way: new family, new friends, new life, and frilly wedding dresses. ๐Ÿ™‚ Lots of love comes from this SWM over here who has been a bit “off the map” lately, but has not stopped thinking of you and all was coming up along the way. Enjoy this new path! Live the journey and cherish it. XOXO-Kasey

  20. October 10, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    You look gorgeous! Congratulations! Wishing you both many years of cherished love and happiness!

  21. October 10, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    We kicked around the idea of eloping. Just the thought of potential clashes between members of our two families, and possibly friends as well, seemed like more work than it was worth. But we plunged ahead anyway, and darn if it didn’t go great! Both sets of parents liked the other, and neither set butted heads with our friends. It all worked out well, even if I did have to chase down the carpet runner just as my bride-to-be started to walk in! ๐Ÿ˜€
    Congratulations on … well, everything. Marriage can be a heck of a ride – enjoy it!

  22. October 10, 2013 at 11:19 pm

    Such wonderful news! I wish you much happiness!

  23. October 11, 2013 at 5:20 am

    The video and photos are so beautiful! Thank you for sharing and congratulations!! It’s so wonderful he made you see what an amazing event a wedding is….we were October as well and it brings back memories as we are about to have our 12th anniversary. I remember it similarly–it was so amazing to see all those wondering people are there, and there for you…..overwhelming experience! Best of luck to you Deborah!!

  24. October 11, 2013 at 8:39 am

    You are a beautiful bride. I am so glad your day was perfect for all of you . Gotta love the Godmother. I just know the life you and your family carve out will be wonderful. And isn’t it fun to say My Husband? I still love saying it after 30 years.

  25. October 11, 2013 at 8:45 am

    You look beee-u-tiful!

  26. October 11, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    Heartfelt congratulations. You look wonderful and I love your video – the music, the flyover, all fab!

  27. October 12, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    Congratulations Deb! You look so happy and peaceful – what a blessed day ๐Ÿ™‚

  28. October 13, 2013 at 7:07 am

    very lovely. all the best!

  29. October 13, 2013 at 7:56 am

    Love, love, LOVE. โค

  30. October 15, 2013 at 1:40 am

    Congrats again, you looked lovely! So happy for you!

  31. October 15, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    Thank you, thank you for sharing your special day with us. Your joy emanates from these words in such a beautiful way.

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