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To the lady who asked:

When I pictured NYE at Disneyland, I did not picture dealing with my most horrible diaper-gone-awry mess to date with bad wipes and a handful of damp paper towels. In a public changing stall.

I did not imagine how embarrassing it would be to spend ten minutes trying to clean up a mess only a bathtub was adequate for.

On the bright side, I also didn’t imagine you, the mom who would stop and ask, “Are you OK? Do you need anything? I have spare clothes.”

By the time you saw me and asked, I was almost done. But your question made me feel not alone, and turned my frown right upside down.

Like I told you then, I thank you so much just for asking. Your questions alone, and the care behind them, were all the help I needed.

Happy new year to you, all of you who stop and ask! May your new year be full of many sweet tidings.

  1. December 31, 2012 at 3:02 pm

    How in the heck are you even posting? From your phone in the bathroom? ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy New Year, Deb!

    • December 31, 2012 at 3:06 pm

      I posted from the passenger seat after cavalry arrived. I didn’t want the moment/feeling to be lost. Happy new year! ๐Ÿ˜€

  2. December 31, 2012 at 3:24 pm

    makes all the difference

  3. December 31, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    How awesome! Not so much the icky diaper, but the lady who offered to help. Kudos to her for being ready and willing to provide whatever she may have had. I love stories like this. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • December 31, 2012 at 4:32 pm

      So many people stare with mouths agape, it is heartening that was not the lone response! We do what we have to do, of course, but it’s comforting to know there’s back-up. Even from strangers!

  4. December 31, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    Oh, I feel your pain! Those changing stalls are so tiny. Such confined spaces make it difficult to change any diaper much less one that is heaping over. I hope the remainder of your evening at Disneyland is full of fireworks and magical memories. Cheers to all things NEW! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • December 31, 2012 at 4:36 pm

      Without getting too graphic, this one got everywhere except his face! I have no idea how that’s even possible, but he sure showed me it was. :p

      All the while, he was busy trying to hug me and tell me how happy I make him. Hee. At the end, “Look, Ma! I’m sparkly and shiny now!” Definitely something I’ll laugh about later, with an ongoing sense of thanks.

      • Donnell Jeansonne
        December 31, 2012 at 8:45 pm

        We’ve had those experiences. Not fun. But glad someone offered to help! Happy New Year to you and fam!

  5. December 31, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    Those people who stop, take note, and ask don’t know just how awesome they are. Hope your new year is fantastic!

    • January 2, 2013 at 7:37 pm

      I wanted to post this in case someone who stops and asks this kind of question read it and realized there’s a heckuva lot of good in these acts they might see as simply matter of fact. ♥

  6. December 31, 2012 at 7:36 pm

    Well I could just kiss her for you! Thankfully there are still very kind people in the world who aren’t afraid of a little mess. Happy New Year!

    • January 2, 2013 at 7:38 pm

      I really did want to envelop her in a hug, and would’ve if my hands weren’t full of things most people probably wouldn’t want too near their person! But I did thank her, twice, so hopefully she understood that as a word-hug. It was a small kindness, but enormous at the same time. I hope I remember to stop and ask the next time I see someone who looks like they’re having a hard time. xoxo

  7. January 1, 2013 at 12:55 am

    That woman, and so many unsung heroes like her, restore my often dented faith in humanity.
    Another lovely post – thank you and a happy New Year to you and yours.

    • January 4, 2013 at 5:55 am

      Same here! Those small acts of kindness work great wonders in my heart.

      Happy new years to you and yours!

  8. January 1, 2013 at 6:01 am

    Thank God for the kindness of strangers. They make up for the bad people we meet along the way and restore our faith in humanity. Happy New Year!

  9. January 1, 2013 at 8:01 am

    Good for her! Happy New Year, Deb.

    • January 4, 2013 at 5:56 am

      She seemed almost embarrassed asking, which is why I thanked her twice and then posted that. It can be hard to reach out, not knowing how someone will respond, but that just makes it all the sweeter when folks do.

      Happy new year!

      • January 4, 2013 at 9:36 am


  10. January 2, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    Yeah for that mom! Yeah for the reminder to BE that mom!

  11. January 2, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    I love that your son wanted hug you when he was covered in something that would make you want to keep him at arm’s length.
    I once suffered the consequences of a serious case of food poisoning in the restroom of an interstate highway rest stop. I was in there vomiting for at least a half hour. Another traveler showed great concern and I was so grateful although there was truly nothing she could have done to help.

    • January 4, 2013 at 5:59 am

      When he does something that makes me sigh, say “oh, no” or similar, he often tells me he loves me, almost as if to say, “I know you’re frustrated now, but please don’t forget how sweet I am, too!” It’s a very, very effective technique. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. January 3, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    Yeah, I’ve been the mom about on the verge of breakdown so many times… It really is nice when someone actually says something. Happy New Year Deb!

    • January 4, 2013 at 6:00 am

      It can be so awkward to say something, but man–it can also be very, very welcome! Happy new year!

  13. January 3, 2013 at 11:03 pm

    hello, deborah… happy new year to you and to your loved ones! thanks for dropping by… ๐Ÿ™‚ ~San

  14. January 4, 2013 at 11:04 am

    Nice to hear there are still glimmers of hope out there in the world. Well, beyond all the glimmers HERE, of course! ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Hope you had a wonderful New Year (despite the Bathroom Debacle), and that 2013 is bringing you nothing but great things!

    • January 6, 2013 at 3:36 pm

      Obviously there are tons and tons of glimmers here; we bloggers are nothing if not 100% sparkly inside! ๐Ÿ˜‰

      I hope your year is happy, too, and generally less full of shoveling than its start!

  15. January 5, 2013 at 8:11 am

    It’s comforting to know that the young moms of the world are still sticking together. And we older moms remember all too well how daunting the diaper clean-up can be.

    • January 6, 2013 at 3:37 pm

      It’s easier for me to remember the snippy moms who indicate others are doing it wrong, but just because it’s easier for me to remember doesn’t mean it’s the whole truth. I was thankful for this reminder!

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