Home > Family, Personal > Sisters, yes, but not by blood (part 2/Amelia)

Sisters, yes, but not by blood (part 2/Amelia)

A week and a half ago, I recounted in this entry the amazing, ongoing impact being both a Little and a Big through Big Brothers Big Sisters has had on my life. Today, my first Little Sister shares her experiences with this phenomenal program. Both of us urge you to consider joining this program, the benefits of which will likely extend–for both Big and Little!–well beyond its one-year commitment.

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Amelia & Deb: sisters now & forever!

I often see a confused face when I mention my sister Deb. I try to describe her as a mentor but that just doesn’t quite do her justice. Hopefully if any of my friends read this they will finally know who I’m talking about when I tell them I’m going to visit my sis for a week.

I remember the day I realized I wanted/needed a big sister. I watched as my (biological) older sister left for a visit with who I understood to be her mentor or “big sister.” After she left I remember asking my mom if I could have a mentor too. I recall thinking something to the effect of “if my sister is under that lady’s wing then whose wing am I gonna be under?” This was the first time it occurred to me that you could in some sense adopt a sister. I think I was 9 years old when Deb and I were paired together through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. My visits with Deb were a very positive outlet for me; they always gave me something to look forward to.

As Deb mentioned, we had many trips to the sub shop. (I still get peppermint fro-yo with gummy bears when I go.) Sometimes I would come along and watch her martial arts class at the Dojo. Other times we’d watch movies, or go sit at the fountain on campus. She’d let me tag along with her and her friends (which she also still does now). She took me to watch my first basketball game AND my first baseball game. She made me a mix tape full of songs front and back; a few of my favorites were Wild World and Forever Young. My writing abilities don’t allow me to do these memories much justice but my heart is full thinking about them. 🙂

At some point along the timeline Deb moved away to Korea. We kept in touch for a while, and then fell out of touch, as people often do as time goes on. But thankfully I ran into her sister at the Lane County Fair and we were reunited years later when I was a teen! Seeing Deb for the first time in a long time was a great feeling, despite how much time had passed, we were still at our cores very much the same. It was that great feeling of seeing an old friend and instantly feeling at home.

I am now 21 years old and still blessed with this wonderful sister and friend. Little did I know when I was 9 that at 19 I’d be flying in an airplane for my first time to visit her in Los Angeles! I enjoy as much as ever our heartfelt conversations about our lives and life in general. I am enjoying an ever deepening friendship with my big sister . . . and now that I’m writing this I realize I will mostly likely soon become a big sister myself . . .

  1. June 30, 2011 at 7:18 am

    Deborah and Amelia – this is beautiful! The two of you have given each other so much, it is clear. Thank you for sharing your experience with the rest of us. ~ Lenore

  2. June 30, 2011 at 7:53 am

    Love. This. You girls are the perfect example of seeking support and thriving with it 🙂

  3. June 30, 2011 at 9:03 am

    That is really inspiring! Great post!

  4. June 30, 2011 at 9:52 am

    This warmed my heart. I’m glad you two had each other <3.

  5. June 30, 2011 at 11:57 am

    Amelia, Thank you for writing this in your own words. I agree with you, it must be hard to describe the ♥ part of the word “mentor.” That’s when more words are necessary and you tell your story. Loved this ♥felt story of your experience with Big Sis-Lil Sis. Deb has written about what a special bond you have. What a tribute to your friendship and the program that you write about it.

  6. June 30, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    What a wonderful way of thanking someone for being in your life.
    I’ve often wondered about whether the program really works or not, but never actually knew anyone that had taken part in it till now. I’m happy to see it does, and makes such a lasting impression. Good job Deb, for being such a wonderful Big Sister and inspiring her to carry the torch now as well.

  7. June 30, 2011 at 6:10 pm

    Wonderful post!

  8. June 30, 2011 at 8:45 pm

    Awww! This is a wonderful post! Amelia, you did a fabulous job of expressing yourself in this piece. 🙂 I’m glad you two had a nice visit!

  9. Nikki
    June 30, 2011 at 8:59 pm

    This is so awesome! Its so amazing all the wonderful ways we can make a difference in others’ lives, especially the young’uns. So happy for you two to have found each other so long ago. 🙂

  10. July 1, 2011 at 6:26 am

    Beautiful! 🙂

  11. July 1, 2011 at 7:18 am

    Very sweet! And I love that she’s going to pay it forward!

    Thanks for visiting and commenting – thought I’d swing by and do the same. Cheers!

  12. July 2, 2011 at 4:18 am

    Beautiful… you look happy together… 🙂
    It’s been a hectic week and I’m now catching up with everyone.
    Happy weekend to you! 🙂

  13. July 3, 2011 at 6:08 am

    Fantastic post!
    You’re a wonderful person for contributing so much to this world.
    Keep it up!

  14. September 24, 2011 at 10:08 pm

    I just got to spend the afternoon with Amelia. ♥

    I’m already looking forward to seeing her again in January. I just wish that didn’t seem so far away!

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