About Me
If you’d asked the ten-year-old me what she was going to be when she grew up, she’d have answered:
Elizabeth Wakefield. Writer. Rabbi. First female Pope (or co-Pope, to be precise, with my also not-Catholic just-younger sister). President of the United States. Doctor. Lawyer. Super hero. How long do I have to answer this question?
I’m 34 years old now. I’ve done only one of the things I originally set out to do. (You guessed it. I became Elizabeth Wakefield. “Deborah Bryan” is my spy name.) I’ve also researched killer whales in British Columbia, taught English in South Korea and Japan, finished law school, done extra work on some of my favorite shows, run a couple of marathons and written some books. I’ve become a mom–the one thing most decidedly never on any of my to-do lists–and discovered I really enjoy negotiating contracts.
Life moves a little more slowly now than it used to, but it’s infinitely more beautiful and complex than it was before. I’m writing and editing almost every day, even if I giggle when forced to actually label myself a “writer.” I’m finally learning to cook. (Thank you, VegWeb!) Most of all, I’m loving every minute of motherhood, which is so, so very much more than soiled diapers, sleepless nights and endless exhaustion.
So far, my life hasn’t gone at all according to my plans. I hope I’ll be able to say the same at 68!
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Interviews
- Literary Escapism (November 10, 2011)
- My New Favorite Day (October 27, 2011)










As someone who grew up in the suburban, maybe rural, fields of Indiana; I can so appreciate the paths that life takes us through…
I hope the paths ahead of us are even more delightful than the ones we’ve traveled thus far!
I just subscribed to your blog. You’ve led a very exciting life.
Sometimes it’s those unexpected twists and turns that make our lives the richest!
First, thanks! I wasn’t thinking clearly enough to comment in-depth on your posts yesterday, but I loved everything I saw. I can’t wait to read more. Second, it’s so true about the unexpected twists! Every time I look on my little son sleeping, I smile and wonder at the weirdness of these turns. When I met my son’s dad–one time before leaving for Japan–I’d never have supposed he would one day be an intrinsic part of the greatest gift of my life . . .
So excited to see what other surprises are in store! And, of course, to learn more about those ahead of you.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read my post today, and especially for sharing your story too. I’m really looking forward to following your updates.
Thanks for stopping by here and saying hello. I’m so glad I stumbled across your beautiful entry yesterday. I look forward to reading those yet to come!
This sounds wonderful. I look forward to reading your future posts!
Thank you! I’m likewise looking forward to reading your future posts, including one I was about to read when my son awakened from his nap earlier.
Your bio is so cool! What an interesting person you must be beyond the cyber-world. Wow! And to think my only claim to fame is one year of college, managing a bar, and raising three kids. Hey, I can make a mean drink though, if that counts;) And you know…it’s all about cocktail time!!
I’m going to have to take a peek/see at your book. I have dozens of manuscripts started, a few just a chapter away from being finished, and absolutely no balls to complete them and send them in. Sadly, I’m lacking what they call, umm…self-confidence. Oh well, my dream is to be a ‘real’ girl when I grow up–I stole that from ‘Pinocchio’…gotta watch that plagiarism shit–so I guess I better learn how to crawl before I can walk, huh?
It was so nice meeting you on my blog, Deb!
My old bio was fairly ridiculous, although it did include some humorous excerpts about me as described my brother-in-law Nick.
I don’t think anyone who’s raised three kids can speak of their “only” claim to fame like it’s small! So that’s three full-time jobs–each of which is so much more and more awesome than a regular “job”!–and a few other interesting experiences knocked off, with more yet to come. I’m excited to see the part that’s yet to come!
Speaking of drinks, know how many I’ve made in my life? I think I’ve mixed some Dr. Pepper and Captain Morgans. I might’ve even done the same with Coke and Captain Morgans! I love a good drink, but I sure haven’t made any myself. Maybe I should work on that?
The books! OH, the books! Trick yourself into writing 100 words a day when you’re not really “looking.” (Like flying in The Hitchhiker’s Guide, since we’re citing sources here!) You’ll accidentally stumble across the finish line and not-so-accidentally relish the feeling of having done it! Once you’ve done it that once, you’ll find it much easier the next time around.
Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting. I look forward to more discussion in the future!
Just wanted to pop in to say hello! Looking forward to following your posts.
Thanks for saying hi! Also? Ditto!
Well I just had to stop around and visit – is this a new site for you? I’ll have to look around. I get the feeling I will not be disappointed.
It is! The site’s just a couple months old. It used to be darker overall, but that got tired fast!
Thanks for stumbling upon my blog! You had me sold on Elizabeth Wakefield! I’m looking forward to spending more time on here.
Glad to hear it (re: Elizabeth Wakefield
). Thanks for having a blog for me to stumble upon! I lost track of time and didn’t have as much time to read as I’d like, but there’s plenty of time yet to remedy that.
Thanks for popping in and reading my blog! I am really enjoying reading your posts–and looking forward to more! I certainly connect with you in your loss. My mother is often mentioned in my posts, and though I lost her several years back, I could feel her sitting with me as I wrote the post, “A Mother’s Pearls.” I know my daughters will connect with you over your YA novel! All the best–Mary
Thank you for stopping by here, and for your kind words! After reading “A Mother’s Pearls,” I’m likewise looking forward to reading more of your posts.
I’m so thankful for the “parenting” and “life” global tags on WordPress, by the way! They’ve led me to such thoughtful, articulate people. Yeah!
Thanks for liking my post, led me here yay!
I’m glad to see the “yay!” at the end of that
What a great way to describe the ‘journey’ we take only to admit that writing is in our blood. Great blog. I will be returning more often.
Thank you! I’m getting a little more comfortable–maybe on a monthly basis as opposed to something so small as a “daily” one!–describing myself as a writer. I think my compulsive need to write is probably as good an indicator of being a writer as anything else
Holy crap, you’re amazing! And I love the Sweet Valley High reference, I totally wanted to be a twin when I was a kid!
Holy crap, you’re amazing!
I can’t tell you how much these words make me giggle, seeing as my brain automatically filled in “ly ridiculous!” after the “amazing.” Thank you!
I actually brought a few Sweet Valley High books with me to Orcalab. Something about them felt like home to me, even if I hadn’t read them for a few years at that point. I still remember lying in my tent with those holiday specials and thinking, “I can do this!” That’s the power of the Wakefield twins.
I can kinda relate to it being weird to label yourself a writer. I’ve only recently started using the term to describe myself, although I guess in a way I’ve always felt like one.
Still feels like a pipe dream (especially since I’m a science major who writes horror O_o)
Oh and the killer whale research sounds amazing!
The killer whale research really was amazing! One of my favorite moments was when folks all boated over to a social gathering, but I stayed on “the cliffs” by myself (despite my then persistent fear of the dark, and the large beasts who roamed the island). In the morning, I got to witness a mama whale roll over onto her back to permit her still-orange calf to feed. I felt like I was in a dream. Even now, all these years later, I still remember the magic of that moment. Aah!
I suspect all people who start down a path–toward writing, being president, being an astronaut–start out thinking it’s probably a dream, at least in part. Luckily for us, in most cases, those folks kept on pushin’. As it sounds like you intend to!
Didja get your story up today, BTW?
Wow, you are my idol – a busy life, a mom, and you still manage to get all this writing and publishing done? I’m impressed! I stay home with my two little boys and have written 2 books… am still editing them and dreaming of self publishing when I have “time” to get it together.
Lovely to meet you, I will keep up with your adventures!
Most of the time, it feels invigorating! Days like today, I want to take a one-week bubble bath and forget about anything resembling work. (Li’l D would be in his dad’s care for that period, obviously!) Thank you for stopping by! The rooting-on from here will be mutual
Oh and yeah I did get my story up! Up and running and now I’m trying to promote the thing haha
Everything I read said there was a pretty slow ramp-up period, so I’ve been kicking back with that–though it’s been pointed out to me my approach might be too kick-back, what with blogging buddies not realizing I’ve written anything non-blog! :p
Hey, Closet Monster. Thanks for visiting my blog.
My daughter is currently teaching English in Japan. Where were you located? Did you work for one of those English-teaching companies like she is? She’s in Osaka. Cheers.
I spent most of my time in Okayama-ken, which isn’t too, too far from Osaka. I worked in public schools through a government contractor. I loved it! How’s your daughter enjoying the experience so far?
Thanks for the “like” on my Rapture post @lifeattitudes! You have a very cool site and an even cooler bio…not to mention the name of the blog! Thanks again,
Bruce
Thanks for visiting, Bruce! How could I not like your Rapture post with its #2? That had me laughing aloud.
Hey Deborah,
I just wanted to let you know that I’ve chosen your blog for the Versatile Blogger Award!
I think your blog is a lot of fun to read! Please stop by my blog to find out more info!
Lisa
Congratulations, Deborah! I’m pleased to report that you’ve just received The Irresistibly Sweet Blogger Award! You’re receiving this award because I really enjoy your wonderful writing and your my favorite blogging buddy. To accept your award, go to http://howcanicomplain.wordpress.com/. I know all of us on here have very busy lives, so please feel no obligation to participate. If you do have time, pass the award on to seven bloggers that you deem worthy. Announce the winners in a post and include seven random facts about yourself.
<3Sprinkles
Congratulations, Deb!! I’m so pleased to report that you’ve just received The Irresistibly Sweet Blogger Award! You’re receiving this award because I really enjoy your wonderful writing. To accept your award, go to http://mariekb.wordpress.com/. I know all of us on here have very busy lives, so please feel no obligation to participate. If you do have time, pass the award on to seven bloggers that you deem worthy. Announce the winners in a post and include seven random facts about yourself.
Marie
Hi Deborah! I popped over via Lenore Diane. The best part of blogging is discovering other blogs. I’m happy to have found yours.
Totally agreed! Almost daily, I find myself wishing I could somehow get paid to read blogs. An hour a day isn’t nearly enough time to read through the thoughtful, funny, and/or heartwrenching (sometimes in the same entry!) blogs out there. Then again, I suppose if I were a Freshly Pressed post wrangler, I wouldn’t be able to comment as much as I like. It’s probably better I accept the inherent constraints of reading and comment because I love doing so. Who needs the pressure of making it professional?
Hey, Thnx for reading my blog..
Your Journey is amazing !! Great Blog..
Keep visiting my blog..
Thanks! It might be a few days between my visits to your blog, but you can bet I’ll be back.
Your life seems prety good to me, and I’m pleased you’ve mananged to cram so much into t, all relayed with a humour it is lovely to read
Thank you! I love my life. It might’ve started out rocky, but I’ve found my footing, for which I count myself grateful.
Thanks for the LIKE of my blog. How you feel about motherhood is how i feel about being a father. Even now at 55. Read my latest post Father is what i am. http://breakitdownpete.wordpress.com/
I remember someone beloved to me telling me life as I knew it would be over–but in a good way!–when I became a mom. I promptly started bawling and told her I needed to go, which was similar to what I felt in subsequent conversations of like tone. But here, now, kicked back at my computer in a home that’s as messy as it is lived in and filled with joy, I see my friend was absolutely right. Life as I then knew it is over, having been replaced with something so much more full of wonder!
It’s so true – life is seldom how we planned it to be. Great to know more about you here. Thanks for leaving comments on my posts. You have a great blog here and I look forward to reading more.
Thank you! I look forward to reading more of yours, too. I love the Let’s Bee Friends blog hop and the lovely folks I’ve become acquainted with through it. It’s such a gift to see other peoples’ narratives through their eyes in this way!
I’m glad Georgette told me about your Blog. It’s like finding a precious gem. Amazing posts and guest writers. Keep all of us inspired with your words. Stay blessed.
Thank you so much not only for visiting, but for commenting! I poked around your blog, too, and look forward to seeing what (more) you have to say as the days marched. I hope to stay blessed, and I wish the same to you!
Nice to have you back. Now my blog is official.
I was never gone from your subscriber list. I changed all my subscriptions from Reader to email, but that’s the extent of the change.
Great blog! You have a new subscriber!
Thanks, Jennifer! I’m going to be checking out your blog in the very exceedingly near future.
You’re SUPERB! sharing your expertise is an inspiration! Keep it up!
Thank you! I’m not sure what my expertise is, but I like the idea that I might have some.
Love that you say motherhood is so, so very much more than soiled diapers, sleepless nights and endless exhaustion. The greater the number of positive comments out there, the better. Love your ethos of gratitude too, that’s humbling and inspiring.
It’s funny to look back and remember how strongly I believed that. The moment my son was placed on my chest, I was a changed woman. The first couple of months were hard and terrifying, but they were also full of joy. Being a mom has been the most rewarding and challenging undertaking of my life so far. I’m so excited to see what’s to come!
I’ve been thinking of taking the Mom Pledge here. Motherhood is such a gift, and I want to do whatever I can to enhance the good and diminish the bad for other moms.
Thank you so much for stopping by, and commenting!
I felt like I could have written this, although with less impressive accomplishments, I never saw myself here either, but I am so thankful I am here nonetheless. Love your writings!
Thank you, both for stopping by and sharing this!
As for my accomplishments, they don’t feel very impressive from this side–but I do feel like I’ve lived a full life and I’m grateful for that! I didn’t even take survival as a given, for a while, so compared against that backdrop? There’s so much wonder!
Thank you so much for the advise on Facebook. I am so new on blogging and everything. It is so wonderful to find supportive bloggers like yourself!
I really enjoyed visiting your blog. Your son is super cute!
Cheers,
Louise
Hi Louise! My apologies it took me so long to reply to your comment, and that I don’t comment on your blog as often as I’d like. It seems you’ve found your groove since you posted this comment!
Well, I’m sixteen now, and if you’d asked me the same question at the top of the page I’d say: a computer programmer (or maybe an engenier – how do I spell it?, sorry) with the exciting hobby of writing urban fantasy books (I just like how it sounds and does fit so good on what I think about my way of writing <3)
Hoping to realize all our dreams, or almost of them!
Congratulations again for your great job and your book!
Mary
Thank you, Mary! I second your wish for both of us–that we will realize all our dreams, or at least that we find any unrealized dreams weren’t half as wonderful as the reality that does become realized! It’s neat to type this and wonder what the days to come will bring. Please count my fingers crossed.
Hi lovely,I am coming by to nominate you for The Versatile Blogger Award. I think you have received it before, but The Lucky Mom gave it to me and you are one of my 15! So the details will be in post that goes live on my page tonight in a post called “Goose in a Bottle.” Here is a link http://mynewfavoriteday.com …all you have to do is follow the rules of the road in the post which includes passing it on to 15 other blogs that you enjoy! xo Shannon
I think/hope I said this earlier, but in case I didn’t–thank you, Shannon!
Aquarium soon?
Hi lady…I am glad you got it! I wasn’t sure if you did or not, but no pressure it’s a lot of work:) Yes, I would LOVE that. My dad is actually coming for a month in March and I definitely want to come down, so perhaps we can all meet up and go. What do you think? <3
Hi! Thank you so much for visiting my blog and reading my posts
My pleasure! I thank you for visiting here as well!
Hi, Deborah – Elizabeth! Just wanted to thank you for visiting my blog and ‘liking’ the article. I wanted to hop over to visit yours as well, now that I know you’re here. It’s obvious from your most recent post that you and your sister have a great relationship. I have only one sister, and we have always had a terrific relationship as well. It is a very special gift.
Your book looks intriguing. I don’t have much time to read at length tonight, but I’ll be back again.
The Lord bless you.
Sandra
Thanks so much for stopping by here, Sandra! It’d been so long since I meandered away from the blogs I’ve long subscribed to, it was delightful to peruse a few new blogs. There’s so much perspective and so much to learn from this here blogosphere, I only wish I could make my living in it. OK, I kinda wish I could make my living in it. I suspect I might enjoy it a little less if it were what I had to do.
As is, I love it, and I’m happy to have made your blogging acquaintance!
Thank you for dropping by my 365 Short Memories. I am pleased you like something. Have just read your On Bald Heads and Being Unended – it certainly resonates, thank you.
Thanks for stopping by, taking a peek and saying hello! It’s good to see you here, and there.
“Life moves a little more slowly now than it used to, but it’s infinitely more beautiful and complex than it was before.” – > That is a lovely line.
Like everyone else, I’m here to say “Thanks for stopping by!” And I am putting you on my watchlist, because I can never learn enough from you wonderful published authors who find time to blog.
Thanks for that!
And because everyone deserves it Happy (Early) Valentine’s Day!
Finding time to blog is fairly easy–it’s keeping up with all the fabulous comments I find hard! I often wish bloggers had an extra half-hour in every day dedicated to this purpose. A great deal of the joy of blogging is, after all, in the community and the connections!
I’ve missed Valentine’s Day, so it’d be silly for me to wish that back, but I hope your’e having a lovely weekend. Thank you so much for stopping by!
I followed Renee over here to read her post, and now I’m hooked. I really hate it when she adds more fabulous blogs for me to follow, but what can I do?
Life never quite works out the way you plan, does it? But it sure is an adventure.
Hee! I, too, feel gratitude and chagrin when introduced to new bloggers. “But . . . but . . . I can’t even keep up with the ones I follow!” Still, it’s lovely to know, and to have their words to look forward to when I have some time to sit and peruse.
I’m glad you found your way here, especially after your comments on my last post, and I’m looking forward to reading more about you!
Thanks for visiting my blog a while back when I didn’t really know what I was doing. I look forward to exploring yours!
Thanks for stopping by, J M! My apologies for taking so, so very long to say so.
Dear Deborah,
I’m going to be thanking you in as many ways as I can think of for posting a link to Thank You on your Facebook page. I was pleasantly surprised to find it as I scrolled down today’s front page. I don’t check Facebook very often, maybe three times a week so it was a lucky find. At least one person has followed my blog as a result and I am thankful for your help in reaching a wider audience. (That has never been my purpose, but recently I was lectured by one of my newer followers about the importance of being agressive in this regard. Another subject, another time.)
Today’s subject is Thanking Deborah. Staying focused here.
Seriously, though, Thanks!
Aloha,
Doug
Aw! Thanks for saying so, Doug. And thanks, too, for leaving me a little breadcrumb trail reminding me to go visit your blog. I haven’t been keeping up on blogs as much as I’d like recently, and mean to convert some of my Facebook energy to WordPress energy effective immediately. There are so many beautiful words here, with yours among those most of all!
Hi I just nominated you for the Beautiful Blogger Award, the post is on my blog!
Thank you, Suzy! Sorry it took me so, so long to say so. I was grateful then and I remain grateful now, even though I failed to actually say it timely.
Hi Deborah! I’ve just nominated you for the Versatile Blog Award because I’ve enjoyed your blog so much. I just noticed I’m not the only one so I’ll just let you know what I wrote about your blog: Honest and poignant, thought-provoking.
I hope you have a great weekend!
I am grateful, Vanessa! Thank you, and I hope the new weekend upon us is kind to you!
I love that you have Elizabeth Wakefield in here. Love it. And love it more that it wasn’t Jessica.
What an interesting life you’re living — and motherhood is certainly up there in that category. When I was 6, we were supposed to draw pictures of what we wanted to be when we grew up. I drew myself as a waitress. The truly tragic part was that I drew myself wearing a french maid uniform. Or maybe it was more like a Flo uniform. Judging by your dream professions, I think you must’ve had a lot more self-respect than I did.
I volunteered my sister to be Jessica, which is amusing in retrospect because she’s much more Elizabeth-like than me (as far as the traits that made me want to be Elizabeth).
Man, oh man. That second paragraph of your comment. What can I even say about that, except I LOVE YOU?! Bwahaha, but you have a knack for bringing the laughter!
How funny! I barely remembered writing this comment (additionally, I barely remember writing any of the posts I wrote two months ago) — and then Speaker7 went and guest-posted herself a perfect tribute to the Wakefield brats on my blog last week.
Yes, waitress. Me. Perfect.
I was chuckling at that, too! I hadn’t remembered you’d written this comment, and when I saw that you had, I couldn’t help but think of that guest post.
Thank goodness for more quality youth lit today — thanks to you for that as well!
Hi Deborah. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’ve been poking around here — your baby is beautiful! As is your writing.
Thank you so much, Jeannette! I’m about to spend a little time poking around places I haven’t been in far too long, so I expect me there before too long.
Good Morning – I found your very intriguing and fascinating blog through Mirth and Motivation. I am s glad that I did. I plan to revisit and read more of your very interesting posts.
It’s very nice to meet you.
Isadora
I’m glad you found my blog, and glad for the comments you have left on it so far. Thank you, Isadora!
I too found your blog through Mirth and Motivation. What you did with your life so far is very impressive. Wishing you and your family all the best. I am a rather slow reader. But I sure will try to read a lot more of your writing. I very much enjoyed reading this blog.
Thank you so much for stopping by, and not only reading but taking time out to share these lovely words! I hope to be visiting your blog very shortly here.
love this! been reading your stuff and WOW… amazing sounds inadequate but it’s all i’ve got right now lol. thanks for stopping by and ‘liking’ my post. here’s too 66 and 99 all the years in between and after.
Thank you! I am so glad you left this comment, because I subscribed to your blog with the intention of reading more, but it now turns out WordPress hasn’t actually been tracking any blogs I’ve added since 4/11/11. D’oh! At least I know how to find some of ‘em.
Hi! I’ve nominated you for an award! Check out the link http://justanotherwakeupcall.wordpress.com/2012/08/27/rainbows-on-my-windscreen/
Belated thanks for this! I can’t believe it took me so long to say so. My apologies, and again, thanks.
Thanks for the like on my blog. Great writing, I will be following.
Many, many thanks, and since it’s that time of year–happy new year!
Thanks for stopping by and following my blog Deborah, though I warn you, closet monsters will be getting the axe (I’ve a little sister to protect for goodness sake!). Thanks for sharing your awesome posts and as always, look forward to reading even more from you
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I’m glad you withheld that axe, my friend! Happy new year to you.
Hi Deborah! I just wanted to stop by and let you know I’ve nominated you for the Addictive Blog Award
You can find out more about it here:
http://thehandwrittenlife.wordpress.com/2012/09/18/addictive-blog-award/
I hope you’re having a great day!
Thank you so much, Andrea, and my apologies for not saying so sooner! I read this at the time and marked it as “for reply later,” which later came much later than expected. D’oh.
No worries! I’m guilty of doing the exact same thing from time to time
Anyways, I just wanted to let you know that I also nominated you for the Blog of the Year Award! http://thehandwrittenlife.wordpress.com/2012/12/29/blog-of-the-year-award-2012/
Thank you for following littlemisswordy and welcome!
I don’t get to read every post, but I love every post I have read so far. I’m looking forward to more in 2013!
Hi! I noticed, you already liked my updated entry hehe. BTW, thanks! There are numerous bloggers who marauded my attention and inspire me in a creative and positive way. Congrats for being ONE! Happy New Year!
Here’s the SUNSHINE AWARD! You deserve it! Keep on shining! http://curlybookworm.wordpress.com/2012/11/30/the-sunshine-award/?like=1&source=post_flair&_wpnonce=56609983c7
gratefully, Lailanie
Hi Deborah,
Georgette told me about your blog and I’m very glad I popped over. Wow you’ve done a heck of a lot of stuff for a young woman in her 30′s.